BuildingBridges222 Posted November 21, 2013 Posted November 21, 2013 So, I need some help with this. In short I feel my ex girlfriend is giving me mixed signals. I'm 23, she's 22 however she was raped a year before by her ex. I met her online 2 months after the rape, I noticed something was wrong and started to help her, a few months on we then got into a relationship. Skipping past the breakup (It was done mutually) things became different between us like any breakup. We had a period of NC afterwards, I said to her I'm going to move on and won't message her as she got suddenly hostile. 3 days later she messaged me completely calmly, this was the first of the many mixed signals in the coming weeks/months. A week ago she sent me this mid-conversation: "i think it's because i don't talk much to you anymore, which i really want to change as now we haven't spoke in ages proper, i've realised i've really missed you i also need to apologise for not speaking in the last few days, i've been revising for the two mocks i've just had, but i want us to become closer again, would you like to?" I ended up accepting, but a day later completely ignored me while talking to a new lad, I went NC from there. 3 and a half days later she messaged me, I responded but said I was busy. She went on to say her and this new kid met up with a few friends, he turned out to be some "egotistical ****" whom bragged of all the girls he's done, making her feel uncomfortable. I said that's not really my business, but asked why she went back on her word to get closer, she said she was stressed so she didn't want to talk to anybody, all while she was talking/getting closer to him? She went on to say that she was 'confused by her feelings' as she felt like she liked him, but then said she feels like she hates him. The next few days I never got any information about him, which I take they stopped contacting each other as normally she'd be liking all his statuses/pictures. The day after we spent the whole day talking, she said that she's going to "Play the player at his own game" (meaning him) as he turned out to be a ****, which I don't really see is a necessary thing to do and is quite childish. Last night I was about to go to bed, as I was she sent me a text saying she was angry, I asked why and she said she was horny. Surely her emotions can't be this erratic? Yesterday was different however, late at night she messaged me saying that she wanted to talk (After the whole day NC) and we talked, her classmates at college made jibes on the topic of rape talking about seeing part of the rapist in the baby and ended up running out the classroom, I comforted her and felt we really did struck a cord with eachother, she asked if she can go off to bed and so I let her. Today however, back to this ****. This is our entire conversation today: Her: "..Sorry about last night" Me: "Ah it's alright, I'm happy to help" Her: "Okay." (She rarely says okay like this, only when I did something bad) Me: "..Is there something wrong?" Her: "No" And from there I left it. I don't think my "Ah it's alright" was bad, but it's now been close to three hours and I've received no further contact. This is driving me mad, I'm already on the basis as she requested some time back that I give her some space and let her talk to me when she wishes, but this erratic behavior is really confusing me. Including that i feel she may be hiding me on her chatbox, how she suddenly comes online and immediately sends me a message when we talk is questionable. Any help is requested, I've already moved on but by how things are she looks like she hasn't.
Sparta Posted November 21, 2013 Posted November 21, 2013 Hey buddy I know it's hard. I remember the pain I went through... I swear to God I thought it was the end of the world. How can she do this to us....LOL I don't know if you even see how she's treating you. She's using you.! She's not attracted to you anymore. See it for what it's worth. she's disrespecting you. would a good friend play you like this. she knows what she's doing she knows that you would take her back in a heartbeat. And she mentions that she was horny. Blah blah blah. She could've asked you to help her with her that.. but she didn't. Or contact you to get back together. I know it's hard ... (NC) No Contact..!!! You you're the nice guy likes to help people. The more you talk and text her the less respect she'll have for you. Only way she'll ever think about you like she used to you go NC completely. And you're dating someone else. Good luck buddy
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