fifipheebs Posted November 21, 2013 Share Posted November 21, 2013 Goes full on flirt mode. Suggests making out. Say I rock his world. I don't respond to it. Next thing he calls me sis. Why???? Link to post Share on other sites
melell Posted November 21, 2013 Share Posted November 21, 2013 I wouldn't read too much into it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
hotpotato Posted November 21, 2013 Share Posted November 21, 2013 (edited) He got scared and tried to backtrack. He tested the waters and didnt get the response he wanted. You were supposed to say,"Heck yes, lets swap spit baby!" then proceed to devour him like a cookie nom nom nom nom He will do a lot more than kiss if he gets the chance... He will probably swell up with desire. Theres a good chance he will have an outburst declaring his love or sexual desire for you. He has probably been dropping hints he likes you, but he was subtle and you missed them. Edited November 21, 2013 by hotpotato 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author fifipheebs Posted November 21, 2013 Author Share Posted November 21, 2013 He got scared and tried to backtrack. He tested the waters and didnt get the response he wanted. You were supposed to say,"Heck yes, lets swap spit baby!" then proceed to devour him like a cookie nom nom nom nom He will do a lot more than kiss if he gets the chance... He will probably swell up with desire. Theres a good chance he will have an outburst declaring his love or sexual desire for you. He has probably been dropping hints he likes you, but he was subtle and you missed them. Oddball. Cus sometimes we'll be all normal friends like. He calls, i call- you know normal friend relationship. Dont give him any jeebies to spook him out to call me sis. The other day he said something fresh, i played with it. Nothing creepy. But next day he throws me the "hey sis!" He still trying to cover up his feelings? Or panicked he thought he led me on and didnt want to? Link to post Share on other sites
hotpotato Posted November 21, 2013 Share Posted November 21, 2013 Oddball. Cus sometimes we'll be all normal friends like. He calls, i call- you know normal friend relationship. Dont give him any jeebies to spook him out to call me sis. The other day he said something fresh, i played with it. Nothing creepy. But next day he throws me the "hey sis!" He still trying to cover up his feelings? Or panicked he thought he led me on and didnt want to? I dont know how to tell you this, but more than likely you have an 'orbiter' not a friend. Most likely he doesnt want to scare you. Friendship is a grey area in which its hard to reject someone. I got tired of dealing with situations like yours. Nowadays I dont keep men around me unless I am romantically or sexually interested in them. Anyway, if you wait long enough the truth will come out. I promise! Have you flat out asked him how he felt? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author fifipheebs Posted November 21, 2013 Author Share Posted November 21, 2013 I dont know how to tell you this, but more than likely you have an 'orbiter' not a friend. Most likely he doesnt want to scare you. Friendship is a grey area in which its hard to reject someone. I got tired of dealing with situations like yours. Nowadays I dont keep men around me unless I am romantically or sexually interested in them. Anyway, if you wait long enough the truth will come out. I promise! Have you flat out asked him how he felt? No. Hes fished tho. He'll say things like "i think you like me". I get confused when he doesnt want to spend time when me. If he likes me wouldnt he want to? Link to post Share on other sites
hotpotato Posted November 22, 2013 Share Posted November 22, 2013 No. Hes fished tho. He'll say things like "i think you like me". I get confused when he doesnt want to spend time when me. If he likes me wouldnt he want to? I think you should ask! Only he knows what hes thinking... Link to post Share on other sites
Author fifipheebs Posted November 22, 2013 Author Share Posted November 22, 2013 I think you should ask! Only he knows what hes thinking... What is the percentage that he fancies me tho? Kinda would like going in having an idea of how to brooch the subject. Link to post Share on other sites
Moe'sTavern Posted November 22, 2013 Share Posted November 22, 2013 What is the percentage that he fancies me tho? Kinda would like going in having an idea of how to brooch the subject. There's no way to actually determine that. But you could assume that the percentage is pretty high. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author fifipheebs Posted November 22, 2013 Author Share Posted November 22, 2013 There's no way to actually determine that. But you could assume that the percentage is pretty high. Thanks moe Link to post Share on other sites
Author fifipheebs Posted November 24, 2013 Author Share Posted November 24, 2013 I think you should ask! Only he knows what hes thinking... Well peeps I'm pretty sure he's not interested. A couple nights ago at a party he basically ignored me and chose to spend the entire night with another group of girls. Guess all he was looking for all those other times was an ego boost. Link to post Share on other sites
befriendlyplease Posted November 24, 2013 Share Posted November 24, 2013 It sounds like you weren't interested in him but wanted him to stay interested in you. Well, you wanted him to continue being a friend. He wanted to hook up with you but you didn't feel that way. He tried to move back to non sexual closeness, probably a little bruised inside. He should move on to other girls because you weren't interested in that kind of relationship and he wants that. Wish him luck. He probably still thinks highly of you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author fifipheebs Posted November 24, 2013 Author Share Posted November 24, 2013 It sounds like you weren't interested in him but wanted him to stay interested in you. Well, you wanted him to continue being a friend. He wanted to hook up with you but you didn't feel that way. He tried to move back to non sexual closeness, probably a little bruised inside. He should move on to other girls because you weren't interested in that kind of relationship and he wants that. Wish him luck. He probably still thinks highly of you. No I am butt crazy in love with him but can't get a read on him. That's why I hold back. But now he is going out of his way to igbore me. I stayed by myself most of the party so he could come over but he didn't. It felt as if he deliberately went out of his way to ignore. Funny thing is he didn't leave with those girls. He left when I did but he didn't even say goodbye. What should I make of this? Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted November 24, 2013 Share Posted November 24, 2013 What should I make of this? If you're both young, and it sounds like you are, these interactions will teach different ways of interacting and expressing honest emotions like attraction and love. IMO, keep doing what you're doing and it'll evolve over time, probably not with him but with someone else. Link to post Share on other sites
Author fifipheebs Posted November 24, 2013 Author Share Posted November 24, 2013 If you're both young, and it sounds like you are, these interactions will teach different ways of interacting and expressing honest emotions like attraction and love. IMO, keep doing what you're doing and it'll evolve over time, probably not with him but with someone else. Oh lord we are in college doing our double majors Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted November 24, 2013 Share Posted November 24, 2013 Yep, you're young. College is a great place to learn all this stuff. In another ten years or so, you'll look back with some understanding of the why's. Right now, just enjoy it and learn. Link to post Share on other sites
Author fifipheebs Posted November 24, 2013 Author Share Posted November 24, 2013 Yep, you're young. College is a great place to learn all this stuff. In another ten years or so, you'll look back with some understanding of the why's. Right now, just enjoy it and learn. yea well it leans on the frustrating side right now of not knowing but getting all the mixed messages. he ignores me all night at the party but messages me. WTF. too embarassed to come over to talk to me in public? never stopped him before. i'm so over this douchebag. Link to post Share on other sites
truth_seeker Posted November 24, 2013 Share Posted November 24, 2013 Goes full on flirt mode. Suggests making out. Say I rock his world. I don't respond to it. Next thing he calls me sis. Why???? It's called insecurity. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
befriendlyplease Posted November 24, 2013 Share Posted November 24, 2013 No I am butt crazy in love with him but can't get a read on him. That's why I hold back. But now he is going out of his way to igbore me. I stayed by myself most of the party so he could come over but he didn't. It felt as if he deliberately went out of his way to ignore. Funny thing is he didn't leave with those girls. He left when I did but he didn't even say goodbye. What should I make of this? You said, "Suggests making out. Say I rock his world. I don't respond to it." Why didn't you make out with him? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author fifipheebs Posted November 25, 2013 Author Share Posted November 25, 2013 You said, "Suggests making out. Say I rock his world. I don't respond to it." Why didn't you make out with him? he's the type of guy that says alot of things but never REALLY means them..unless he said it in joking manner hoping if i rejected it then he could brush it off. But like i said, he's hard to read sometimes. ive been trying to take a step foward when he does - meeting halfway but when i did that the other week, he tossed me the "sis" bone. when he ignroes me at a party and spends it with these other girls (my nemesis) like he did recently, then perhaps feeling bad he messages me, that doesn't bode well IMO. Link to post Share on other sites
befriendlyplease Posted November 25, 2013 Share Posted November 25, 2013 he's the type of guy that says alot of things but never REALLY means them..unless he said it in joking manner hoping if i rejected it then he could brush it off. But like i said, he's hard to read sometimes. ive been trying to take a step foward when he does - meeting halfway but when i did that the other week, he tossed me the "sis" bone. when he ignroes me at a party and spends it with these other girls (my nemesis) like he did recently, then perhaps feeling bad he messages me, that doesn't bode well IMO. I see. I would have assumed the making out conversation would have opened the door for something to happen. I think I see where you're coming from. I think what I said before could explain how he might be seeing things. So, if he thinks he made a pass at you and nothing happened then he wouldn't want to be around you where you could see his vulnerability. But then, you're saying things seemed like they were getting going and now he's off talking to other girls and ignoring you. How epic is the dynasty through which you meet your nemesis on the field of battle? Just kidding. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author fifipheebs Posted November 25, 2013 Author Share Posted November 25, 2013 I see. I would have assumed the making out conversation would have opened the door for something to happen. I think I see where you're coming from. I think what I said before could explain how he might be seeing things. So, if he thinks he made a pass at you and nothing happened then he wouldn't want to be around you where you could see his vulnerability. But then, you're saying things seemed like they were getting going and now he's off talking to other girls and ignoring you. How epic is the dynasty through which you meet your nemesis on the field of battle? Just kidding. how epic is the battle? its like knock out rounds each time i see her. he knows i can't stand her. at times i wonder if he's just trying to make me admit my feelings by being around her or paying her more attention in front of me to get a reaction out of me. Sometimes when he does this he will watch for my reaction, but at the party he seemed deliberate in ignoring me - wouldn't come around once to say hey. So, if he thinks he made a pass at you and nothing happened then he wouldn't want to be around you where you could see his vulnerability. But then, you're saying things seemed like they were getting going and now he's off talking to other girls and ignoring you. OK this month alone (as an example) he calls me ALOT - asks me questions i know he either already has the answers to, or can ask another dude from our class or email the prof. im thinking 'all right then, excuse to contact me. i see we're doing this again'. Then we see each other after the weekend in study hall and he being the cheeky monkey says "you checking me out?" i say "yah and i like it" BAM he goes all "sis" on me. Link to post Share on other sites
befriendlyplease Posted November 25, 2013 Share Posted November 25, 2013 how epic is the battle? its like knock out rounds each time i see her. he knows i can't stand her. at times i wonder if he's just trying to make me admit my feelings by being around her or paying her more attention in front of me to get a reaction out of me. Sometimes when he does this he will watch for my reaction, but at the party he seemed deliberate in ignoring me - wouldn't come around once to say hey. Oh. I was joking about you have a "nemesis." You shouldn't have a nemesis. He might be. It's hard to know for sure. Well, I guess some non specific advice is if a situation is making you unhappy don't waste time with it. OK this month alone (as an example) he calls me ALOT - asks me questions i know he either already has the answers to, or can ask another dude from our class or email the prof. im thinking 'all right then, excuse to contact me. i see we're doing this again'. Then we see each other after the weekend in study hall and he being the cheeky monkey says "you checking me out?" i say "yah and i like it" BAM he goes all "sis" on me. I just don't know. It sounds like even though you're not sure about what's happening, you're enjoying your interactions with this guy. Try not to be too mean to the other girl and good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Author fifipheebs Posted November 25, 2013 Author Share Posted November 25, 2013 Oh. I was joking about you have a "nemesis." You shouldn't have a nemesis. He might be. It's hard to know for sure. Well, I guess some non specific advice is if a situation is making you unhappy don't waste time with it. I just don't know. It sounds like even though you're not sure about what's happening, you're enjoying your interactions with this guy. Try not to be too mean to the other girl and good luck. i DO enjoy my interactions with him when hes not IGNORING me!! as for the girl, not mean. keeping is kosher. dont want to give reasons for him to ever side with her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author fifipheebs Posted November 26, 2013 Author Share Posted November 26, 2013 i DO enjoy my interactions with him when hes not IGNORING me!! bump Link to post Share on other sites
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