My girlfriend contacting an ex who is a married man she had an affair with for meet

[pcurran1984]

Two years ago my girlfriend was seeing a guy who had a girlfriend they would often meet up and have a quick bunk up. This all stopped a year and a halve ago the guy still trying carry it on even he got engaged and then married to his girlfriend.

 

Me and my girlfriend got officially together around valentines this year we've been really happy i thought.

 

Around the time we first got together he was trying to get my girlfriend to come to his leaving do before he moved to Australia even though his fiance was there and still pestering to meet up at a hotel. He went to Australia about the same time as we got together.

 

Then the other night I was on her phone and went to log into facebook as typical of me my battery was dead. So I go to log into the app there is a message from this guy saying " I'm back for 3 weeks do you want to meet up?"

 

My girlfriend goes onto say "fabulous blah blah I was thinking about you the other day when I was in earls court" ("mention here it was on a date we were on in earls court although she did say that was where he was from whilst we where out")

 

I was really cross and said " well that's it all the best" and left we are speaking but I think I caught something before it happened.

 

The guy is married now in Australia they where having an affair for a long time. She hasn't been upfront to me about meeting an old flame.

 

I can't see what the appeal is to meet up for a drink for her considering shes got a boyfriend and he is now married

 

I don't think the guy has good intentions

 

My girlfriends pretty clued up I believe she knows that if the wife knew she wouldn't like it at all and if I knew I wouldn't like it yet she tried to proceed with meeting up so I don't think she had good intentions.

 

She said she wanted to meet up and wanted to talk about me all the time it was juviniel and she wouldn't have done it if It would make me feel like this.

 

We are getting back together the guy comes over on the 24th I'm really struggling to trust her its make me really worry and get angry well as much as I do get angry.

 

Do you think I should get rid of her or bare it out I did really love her but this has made what was simple fun and lovely relationship into some wierd ex boyfriend thing.

 

All the best

[xUnknown]

Honestly...dump her. Get a hold of the wive and tell her the **** that has been going on. Its been 8 months, shes been with this guy emotionally and physically before you two were together, emotionally since you two were together, now...well who knows. She's no good for you. I know the contacting the wife may be a bit vindictive, but, would you want to know if your wife was cheating...sure you would. She can choose to stay with him if she wants, so at least you'll have a clear conscience.

[Mariposa10]

This is horrible. How are you gonna be able to trust her from now on? If I were you, I'd break up with her. If there's no trust in a relationship, there's no relationship.

 

Now, as far as telling the wife like someone said, I don't know. I mean, if it was me, yes, I would appreciate if someone told me. I'd be forever grateful. However, you can get into deep trouble for doing that...