Author MissNoname Posted November 22, 2013 Author Posted November 22, 2013 i am wondering why you feel like you need to choose at this point. For that matter, I would even add the lawyer into the mix! You need more information. The kind of information you will get from continuing to go out with both or even several. The cream will rise to the top! In other words, the one it should be will reveal itself in time. If more girls dated this way, dating would go more smoothly, I think. Less "why didn't he call" etc. This is a "good" problem to have. I wouldn't decide just yet. If it matters at all, I like guys 1 & 3. I need more info about 2 because right now he seems dull by your description. LOL, kinda kidding. I dont want to mislead anyone. Guy 1 already asked me questions about what am I looking for and said to me he is open to whatever I decide. Guy 2 invited me to his works christmas party. He asked me twice already to go with him. I dont take someone to work christmas party unless Im dating him seriously. Guy 3 is going on a business trip and he asked me like three times already to hang out this week before he goes away and Ive been turning it down. I know i have to make a decision soon. I dont think I can drag it that long.
truth_seeker Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 Honestly, I dont. No offense to anyone but I feel that I respect myself more that I dont and it shows when I interact with guys and I dont think I have time . I barely have time to see these guys because they all want to see me at least once a week. These guys are either rabid masturbators or the others days away from you they are with other women.
Versacehottie Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 ok well if you are feeling like you must choose one for now. You could choose one and tell the other that you just aren't ready to date anyone just now. Then you could go back to the other one if it doesn't work out with the one you decide to choose first. Logistics-wise this would work easiest with guy 1. Because you could easily use the excuse of it being "not ready to date" because you work together. However, he's more interesting to me & sounds really interested in you AND has known you long enough to be pretty sure about that! He sounds like a great guy. As far as number 2 goes, while you may not take anyone except guys you are serious about to company christmas party--a lot of people are not so discerning. Not saying he's not a good guy, just that lots of guys are way more casual about company christmas parties, etc. I have seen a lot of guy friends take the most casual of dates to destination weddings!!! It has a different meaning to them--generalization but you get what I mean. Guy 2 makes you laugh right? Idk, that's a big plus. Though number 1 sounds most serious about you.
Author MissNoname Posted November 22, 2013 Author Posted November 22, 2013 These guys are either rabid masturbators or the others days away from you they are with other women. Guy 1 I know dont have other women. Were friends before we dated and told each other about other people we were seeing. Guy 1 knows my past atleast the ones I told him about. Guy 2 not sure. Guy 3 maybe has other girls. He moves fast but I control the pace so still no sex upto this point. Hes been trying to take me home.
pyramid Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 Don't go to the Christmas party, that's too serious this early. Keep dating both, believe it or not the choice will eventually become clear. I was dating two guys over the summer and I thought it would never resolve itself - was kid of stressed about it... but feelings faded for one and grew for the other, and we're still together.
twinkie0 Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 With all due respect (and don't take this the wrong way), you suck. I mean you really do suck. I know it must bother you to have this told so boldly, but it's the truth, bare with me. I have been in your situation, and even though I wouldn't have admitted this at the time, in retrospect I can realize that I was in fact an ******* for doing this. Same scenario: both girls were cute and awesome, smart and whatnot. But in the end you're just someone going out with two people. There are always going to be people who aren't a couple to whom we are attracted, and there's nothing wrong with that, as long as you don't act on it. It may not be "cheating" if neither is your boyfriend officialy, but it's still wrong. Put yourself in their shoes for a second.
Un-conditional Love Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 It seems pretty simple to me. As long as you are honest and up rent with girl 1/girl2 then just take it slow. Regarding guy 1 you say u were friends for 1year prior to starting to date 2 months ago. Did u always have romantic feelings towards them which were only reciprocated 2 months ago? Which of the 2 do you think is more invested/or into you? Go with the one that gives you butterflies and that you have respect, admiration and comparability with. You seem to be a popular guy so if you aren't looking for a long term R then just keep casual dating.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 With all due respect (and don't take this the wrong way), you suck. I mean you really do suck. I know it must bother you to have this told so boldly, but it's the truth, bare with me. So, in summation, you wish to get naked with her because she sucks ?? Are you throwing your name/hat/nomination into the ring??
joystickd Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 just f**k them both you know you want to.
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