ByMyself01 Posted November 21, 2013 Posted November 21, 2013 When I posted last time about dating and that I wasn't ready and I called it off with a guy. Well, since yesterday me and this other guy hit it off pretty well and I'm already attracted to his personality and I feel like I'm strong enough now to let another guy in my circle. I know that getting under someone will help me get over my ex, I know how "I" work because it happened 3 times in a row. Everytime I end up falling for someone else, I forget about the last person. I don't necessarily stop caring for them, but I move on faster. I'm going to be honest, I've been wanting sex a lot lately since the breakup. Imagine going from having sex everyday to nothing at all. The new guy has not pushed himself on me for sex, but I just broke down and asked him last night. According to him, it's been a while for him so it would benefit him as well. Let's all be adults, I'm not a slut or nothing. Once I find one, continuous partner, that's what I stick with even if it's just sexual. This is actually my first time trying out casual sex. The new guy wants a relationship as well, I'm very much attracted to his personality, but I want to get to know him a little better before starting a new relationship. Should I go through with the casual sex or just stick it out. Also, I'm not good with masturbating and I feel guilty afterwards so I would rather have a real person to have sex with.
Phantom888 Posted November 21, 2013 Posted November 21, 2013 Casual sex is risky.... I always say someone will eventually get hurt, and it's so confusing. If you want casual sex to get it out of your system, great... but be careful if one day you meet the PERFECT man, and he finds out about how promiscuous you were, he might end up respecting you less or not date you. Men just don't want to be in long term relationships or make babies with women who view sex so casually. IMHO. 1
Babolat Posted November 21, 2013 Posted November 21, 2013 When I posted last time about dating and that I wasn't ready and I called it off with a guy. Well, since yesterday me and this other guy hit it off pretty well and I'm already attracted to his personality and I feel like I'm strong enough now to let another guy in my circle. I know that getting under someone will help me get over my ex, I know how "I" work because it happened 3 times in a row. Everytime I end up falling for someone else, I forget about the last person. I don't necessarily stop caring for them, but I move on faster. I'm going to be honest, I've been wanting sex a lot lately since the breakup. Imagine going from having sex everyday to nothing at all. The new guy has not pushed himself on me for sex, but I just broke down and asked him last night. According to him, it's been a while for him so it would benefit him as well. Let's all be adults, I'm not a slut or nothing. Once I find one, continuous partner, that's what I stick with even if it's just sexual. This is actually my first time trying out casual sex. The new guy wants a relationship as well, I'm very much attracted to his personality, but I want to get to know him a little better before starting a new relationship. Should I go through with the casual sex or just stick it out. Also, I'm not good with masturbating and I feel guilty afterwards so I would rather have a real person to have sex with. No disrespect, you are kind of all over the place here, and, it's not real clear what you are REALLY asking. If you like this guy, then, well, date him and let the sex part run it's natural course. If on the other hand, you just want sex, you are both adults, had that talk, then go for it.
liquid_amber Posted November 21, 2013 Posted November 21, 2013 When I posted last time about dating and that I wasn't ready and I called it off with a guy. Well, since yesterday me and this other guy hit it off pretty well and I'm already attracted to his personality and I feel like I'm strong enough now to let another guy in my circle. I know that getting under someone will help me get over my ex, I know how "I" work because it happened 3 times in a row. Everytime I end up falling for someone else, I forget about the last person. I don't necessarily stop caring for them, but I move on faster. I'm going to be honest, I've been wanting sex a lot lately since the breakup. Imagine going from having sex everyday to nothing at all. The new guy has not pushed himself on me for sex, but I just broke down and asked him last night. According to him, it's been a while for him so it would benefit him as well. Let's all be adults, I'm not a slut or nothing. Once I find one, continuous partner, that's what I stick with even if it's just sexual. This is actually my first time trying out casual sex. The new guy wants a relationship as well, I'm very much attracted to his personality, but I want to get to know him a little better before starting a new relationship. Should I go through with the casual sex or just stick it out. Also, I'm not good with masturbating and I feel guilty afterwards so I would rather have a real person to have sex with. If you're truly able to keep it casual, why not? My problem is that I can't keep it casual, no matter how much I may want to. If the sex is good, my emotions always get involved, and then I end up getting hurt later when the guy breaks it off or tells me he doesn't want anything more than sex. 1
Phantom888 Posted November 21, 2013 Posted November 21, 2013 Ehhh do what you want OP. I feel this way about men, but lots of men today have a double standard with this. Casual sex is cool for them, not for their potential girlfriends though. I dont sleep around so I expect my S.O to not have done that either. I find it to be a turnoff in men. But do what you want, doing it once in your life wouldnt hurt you. There is a double-standard, but mostly for lame men who have no problem having lots of FWBs, but they don't want to end up with that kind of woman in a serious relationship. This is such a selfish behavior, and unfortunately, our society encourages it by letting them do it. Men just assume women sleep with other men early just because they have sex on the 1st or 2nd date. But this really isn't always the case. 1
Author ByMyself01 Posted November 21, 2013 Author Posted November 21, 2013 Well, I decided not to go through with the casual sex anymore with this guy. After talking with him today, I received a red flag. He seemed kind of moody and it's better I leave it alone before things escalate. I've learned from the past and I will be moving on to the next. I also realized that I can wait for the sex. And YES I still do miss my ex, maybe I wasn't as ready as I thought I was.
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