TealQueen Posted November 21, 2013 Posted November 21, 2013 I read a comment on here last night about how when men know they "have" a woman they lose respect or don't try as hard or something. If that is true, does that mainly apply to dating? If someone was in a serious, long term relationship of over a year, and they "spilled their guts" to their boyfriend...would the same apply? Because when I imagine this scenario going down in my head, I imagine it bringing the couple closer together.
soccerrprp Posted November 21, 2013 Posted November 21, 2013 I read a comment on here last night about how when men know they "have" a woman they lose respect or don't try as hard or something. If that is true, does that mainly apply to dating? If someone was in a serious, long term relationship of over a year, and they "spilled their guts" to their boyfriend...would the same apply? Because when I imagine this scenario going down in my head, I imagine it bringing the couple closer together. Apparently this applies to both dating and after marriage. Not all men are like this, of course, but there seems to be a general feeling that that is what happens. But complacency is not restricted to men, though men seem to be the more active perpetrator. Unfortunately, it depends on a number of factors. Age, maturity, motivations...like I said, not all guys are like this.
d0nnivain Posted November 21, 2013 Posted November 21, 2013 Everybody puts their best foot forward in the begining. Once the relationship is established, both sides get comfortable. It's just the natural way of things but in & of itself doesn't mean the love is gone.
Andy_K Posted November 21, 2013 Posted November 21, 2013 It applies predominantly if you played a little 'hard to get' early on, whether that means you waited a month before sleeping with him, or were often unavailable for dates, or whatever else. If you don't do any of that you'll get to the real man underneath much faster. And yes, the books have a grain of truth in - he is far more likely to take you for granted. But this isn't because you did things the wrong way. It's because you found out who he really was much faster.
Leigh 87 Posted November 21, 2013 Posted November 21, 2013 This is not always true at all. When a mentally healthy man and a woman get together, and they are both head over heels; they both show interest. They both mirrow each others interest. When both parties are super into each other, there are no games really. When a guy is nuts about a girl, he shows it. When the girl feels the same way back, she shows it. When a person is truly interested in getting to know someone, they don't let over eagerness turn them off. Because they feel JUST as eager. .............................................................. Imbalances of power occur in dating due to one person being more invested than the other.
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