Peter54321 Posted November 21, 2013 Posted November 21, 2013 Hello, I just recently went through a breakup which at the moment is very hard for me which I think was mainly due to my girlfriend having GIGS. I made a post about it and have been reading around different topics and forums etc I was looking at a 'self confidence' thing on TinyBuddha and came across this; "This was a great read especially at this moment in my life. I have been dating my boyfriend for a bit over a year now. When we started dating I was confident, happy, rational. I was me. Although nothing is certain, in the first few months of the relationship, I was CONFIDENT that my boyfriend had very loving feelings for me (more than I had for him) and he had good reason to have those feelings because I believe I have loving qualities. As time went on, my uncertain feelings for him developed into love. Once I felt love for him, I suddenly realized I have something/someone to lose. Thats when I lost myself. I lost my confidence. I have become irrational about everything he says and does. I question if he still has those same feelings for me he once had. I upset myself about this because he is a great man and we have a wonderful bond. I feel at this moment, I have ruined (or negatively influenced) the relationship and his feelings for me. He continues to tell me that he loves me, we share nearly everyday together and he still talks about moving in together so I try to use that bit of evidence to boost my confidence however, I know deep down the confidence must come from within. I am working on my irrational thoughts with my mentor though I would also value any advice or thoughts from this crowd. Peace be with all." This is exactly how I felt and I just wish I could of told her this. I am doing no contact and haven't said a word since she left but I wish I could just send this to her and so many other things. But anyway just wondering if anyone else felt or acted this way?
thompkevin Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 Hey Peter, Yes, that is exactly how many people feel (including me at one time). You are doing great with the no contact. Keep it up.
Author Peter54321 Posted December 3, 2013 Author Posted December 3, 2013 Thanks Thomp! Just waiting out the pain :S
MRXXXXX Posted December 3, 2013 Posted December 3, 2013 I can really relate to this. Would love to send it to my ex but I've just started nc. Thanks for putting it up, was good to read
Author Peter54321 Posted December 4, 2013 Author Posted December 4, 2013 No worries! I thought it was great too and yeah, I wish I could of shown my ex but I guess if they ended things without even trying to work on it than they are not the one for us....
RDawg Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 The best thing to do in this situation is to go No Contact. Don't ever speak to her again, delete her number number and block her on facebook.
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