Ataalotala Posted November 21, 2013 Posted November 21, 2013 I'm gonna try to make this one short, i met my cousin for the first time in 2010 she was 22 i was 23, we both have different religions as my dad converted to marry my mum and her mother immigrated back in the 80th so i got to see her for the first time after all these years, we fell in love but she was just visiting and left back home but we kept contacting each other. I proposed to her family to marry her but they refused aggressively and took her passport from her to make she won't travel, she lost hope and told me we have to end this and i said ok but after 2 months she began contacting me again and we agreed that she will escape and come to me and she did that and we got married without anybody knowing spent 3 years together happily but we were together all the time, we travel together we do everything together and everything seemed fine until we took vacation and i decided to go back home and not go with her to her family. We had few clashes over the phone when she was there and i told her if i will divorce her and did foolish things like deleting her on facebook. I believe her family influenced her, they hold a grudge against my father and us because he converted and they don't want the kids to have another religion I forgot to mention that we had an argument about the religion of the kids before she travels She came back another person and was so distant, we had alot of fights and got divorced one month after and she went back to her family. Now and after two month of NC she contacted me twice but i didn't answer coz of the time different ( she called me 1 am her time) The week after i called her but she didn't answer but then sent me a message telling me " You called me ?" I said " YES" She txt back saying " Talk to me then,,,,everything ok?" I replied " Yeah! all great, missed your calls last week so wanted to check if all is ok Her: Thanks for calling, ya all is good her too, how's work? I said: Great, work is good as well, thank you. take care I said that to terminate the discussion She responded saying: Take care as well and then after an hour she sent another one saying: Good to know everything is fine with you but i didn't answer. NOW, what do i do if i want this woman back, it's complicated i know but she was my first love and acting cold but i really want her back ANY ADVICE
Author Ataalotala Posted November 21, 2013 Author Posted November 21, 2013 Hey guys, where am from. We don't have issues getting married to cousins, just disregard the fact that she's my cousin and give me an answer if this is wrong in your culture
mcfcjay Posted November 21, 2013 Posted November 21, 2013 Well im not one for disrespecting cultures, if its the culture you was raised in then i suppose its not wrong for you... I say stand by your own beliefs, never back down, thats the sign of a weak weak man.
Author Ataalotala Posted November 21, 2013 Author Posted November 21, 2013 Can i just ask you a question. Why do you think marrying your cousin is wrong, just want to know and do you have any advice for me, have your read the thread?
mcfcjay Posted November 21, 2013 Posted November 21, 2013 Marrying a member of family is wrong, like in your culture its right in mine its wrong and i just gave my advice stand by your beliefs, if your arguing over the religion of children and you cant come to an agreement then end it dont give in if you believe in something stick by it.
Author Ataalotala Posted November 21, 2013 Author Posted November 21, 2013 And if i tell you that am willing to convert to be with her as i don't really believe in religions, what would your opinion be?
Author Ataalotala Posted November 21, 2013 Author Posted November 21, 2013 It's my first time here in the forum and i would really like to know what do you guys think, should i call, should i go knock on her door and say it, what should i do?
mcfcjay Posted November 21, 2013 Posted November 21, 2013 No thats the sign of a weak man have a bit of confidence in yourself... You have a set of testicles god damnit realise this and put your foot down dont convert for nobody if you dont have a religion yet you convert to something you dont believe in thats just mocking the religion. Tell her your not going to convert, if she doesnt like it suck it up. 1
Omei Posted November 21, 2013 Posted November 21, 2013 For the future, it may be his cousin but no one has the right to tell them its wrong. Anyway it sounds like your differences on religion and how you would raise kids etc are too great add that with clashing familys I think if you were to be together it would be more stressful then anything else and it would cause so many issues in the long hual. The fact that she was so easily convinced to leave your three years after 1 family visit sounds like shes tired of fighting them because she had before now she caved, she's likely come to the point where she can no longer be split by her family and you and she picked her family thats what it sounds like to me. Sorry you're going through a hard time, let this one go if she text's you again stay NC untill you are fully healed she left, she doesnt get to check up on you.
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