got first girlfriend, losing all friends because she is bbw

[HassanTwoTon]

i been fat like my whole life. all through middle school girls didnt even talk to me. freshman year i got bjs from a few thots but never dated. sophomore year i got a goodlooking girl but everyone made fun of her for dating me. she dumped me after like two weeks.

 

had to switch schools this year because of bad fight. at new school i was semi popualr at first. im a good football player and dudes like me (no homo).

 

well this fat girl ended up asking me to homecoming. she is like really fat but i mean come on so am i. shes fatter though. but has a pretty face. i said yes because who else was gonna go with me? we had a goodtime. she asked to be my girlfriend. i said yes again. but ever since ive started dating her i have lost pretty much all my new friends.

 

pretty obvious that people are making fun of me when im just walking down the hall now. nobody will eat lunch with me now. nobody really talks to me in classes anymore. whole school pretty much shuns me except for this girls friends. only people who will even say hi to me are her friends. and she doesnt have many of thsoe. today i was going to lunch and there was this group of senior guys talking to these girls. as i walk by one of them says "yea i would never date a super fat (female dog) like this dude right here" and everyone in group started laughing. i just kept walking.

 

the few dudes who do still talk to me say stuff like "why you always with her bro? is that your only girl? you need to dump her shes hella HOOOOOOOOGE" and stuff like that.

 

friends from old school have also told me that i need to dump her asap.

 

the thing is i actually get a long with her. shes the first person whose ever taken an interest in me ever. ive never had a conversation about real stuff with anyone else in my life. also she doesn't make me feel bad about my body. i have manboobs and big hips and ive been teased about that my whole life to the point where i have just gotten over it. but shes the first girl whose actually wanted to take my clothes off. first girl whose layed on my chest and not laughed at me or been grossed out. so idk.

 

what would you do in my position? im only a junior and i dont wanna ruin my reputation anymore thats its already being ruined. but i dont wanna dump her either.

[Outsider77]

Ugh, this is why I hated high school so much. Stupid kids are trying to intimidate you into dumping your gf because they have decided that you shouldn't date her. That's ridiculous. You like her and that's what matters. Stand up for yourself and tell them to **** off. Don't let them dictate what you are going to do in your life. If you have enough confidence they may leave you alone. Teenagers are like animals, they will sense weakness.

 

I let the way people treated me in high school ruin the rest of my life. Don't be like that.

[Grumpybutfun]

Hassan:

You have to decide what is more important to you and what kind of person you want to be. If you want to be popular based on letting others dictate to you what you do, think or feel, then dump her and try to get your "friends" back. If you want to be a good person who doesn't care about peer pressure and have a girlfriend then just let their comments roll off of you and enjoy your gf. You are a junior. You have one more year of having to deal with these yahoos. Real friends wouldn't dump you because they don't approve of a girl you are dating. High school is such a smalllllll part of life. However, beng a good person and doing what is right rather than what is easy is something you carry with you into adulthood. There will always be jerks. The best way to deal with them is to not care, and to ignore their immature rhetoric. However, if you care more for your reputation and popularity than being authentic and happy, then break up with her as nice as you can. Just remember how it felt when that cute girl did this to you.

If I were you, I would do whatever makes me happy and ignore the backlash as they will find someone else to pick on eventually if you act like it doesn't bother you.

Grumps

[lollipopspot]

If it means anything, I like you BETTER that you're dating this girl. It makes me feel that you're someone who is willing to look beyond appearance, and that is a great quality.

 

Some people are teasing you, but I'm sure there are a lot of silent people who think as I do.

[Ninjainpajamas]

Just understand that she has been through everything you have in terms of being judged and discriminated for her weight. She is someone that can relate to you and understands what it feels like for someone to think less of you just because of the way you look, she is far better of a friend and companion at the least than any of these people that pretend to be your friend, that would leave your side as soon as it became less popular...she knows what it's like to be teased and made fun of and shunned from certain situations that she might be "too fat" to be apart of.

 

Don't let these people influence your decisions based on peer pressure, and if anything let your experiences teach how to be strong and resilient and show her by example on how to deal with that with poise, don't let people talk crap about you and don't just stand there and take it...these people don't care anything about you, they just feel embarrassed and are insecure themselves where they would afraid of being judged and laughed at so they pick on you because you two are an easy target...but you've got to stand up for yourself.

 

Personally I wasn't overweight in my youth was on the skinny side and had to wear glasses which I got teased for at times too, but I have been bullied here and there especially going to different schools throughout my life all the way up to highschool so you lose your friends from moving having to make new ones and I also played sports...where all the macho crap talkers are.

 

I'm not saying my way is the way but I started rolling heads when people ran their mouth at me, and at least spoke up for myself and at times I just ignored them or laughed in their faces, I learned how to outwit and be clever about what I was going to say...of course I couldn't do that in every situation but eventually I earned respect by being a force to be reckoned with as I wasn't a pushover and having the guts not to be talked down or lay down to get ran over, I've had to fight several kids at once at times on occasion as chickens hang in packs but If I was going I was going down fighting and sure enough they were much more scared and different when they were all alone, all of a sudden they weren't such tough-guys...I'm one of the rare type of people though who could stand against the greater odds and I'll still hold my ground with composure, It doesn't bother me to be an outsider and the opinions of others do not reflect upon me and my self-esteem nearly as much as others.

 

So these are important life lessons here, at your age your behavior and the way you react towards it, and how you stand up for yourself will echo throughout your attitude in life...you've got make some decisions, are you going to buckle under the pressure? are you going to let others belittle you and push you around? Or are you going to keep your head up, defend yourself in whatever way you can and protect the people who you care about and deserve to be respected? Or is it more important to you what the ignorant self-loathing pussified sheep think?

[FnlyFrei]

I have dated heavy men, attractive, but heavy. I actually do not like really thin men. What matters more than if she is a big girl or not, is how you two get along, the chemistry, your friendship. If you break up with her because of what other idiots say, instead of how YOU feel, you might just classify yourself in the same shallow pool the others crept out of. Besides, when and if she decides to make any weight changes, your friends might just be drooling over her instead of mocking you.

[Pistol pete]

For some reason all I keep thinking about is that scene from The Breakfast Club...