jj_999 Posted November 21, 2013 Posted November 21, 2013 Hi could really use some advice... So I went out a girl to a restaurant for a first date. It seemed like she had fun but from I could tell she definitely wasn't into me. I even mentioned oh well we could do ___ sometime and she kind of brushed it off. Then after the date she said It was nice but got out of there really quickly - no kiss. I thought forsure it was going nowhere so I said hey why not just see - so I sent her a text saying thanks for dinner and I asked if she was interested in going out again. She replied "thanks! sure : ) have a good week" Now it's been two weeks ...she never initiates contact ... I've texted the past two weekends. First weekend just said hi how was your week... it took her alittle while to respond. next week I wrote again and she wrote the next morning saying she was so sorry she forgot to write back and asked how i was etc. The next day I asked what shes doing today and she said "i got called into work : (" So I'm pretty sure she's not interested : (. Any advice? I am going out with other girls but I did like this one... I probably won't text her for a week or so because I'm pretty busy...
RonaldS Posted November 21, 2013 Posted November 21, 2013 The smart money is on not texting her at all.
Author jj_999 Posted November 21, 2013 Author Posted November 21, 2013 "smart money is on not texting at all" - your saying def not interested - move on? I guess so eh... I haven't asked her out but I did ask what she's doing that one day and she said "she got called into work : ("
Outsider77 Posted November 21, 2013 Posted November 21, 2013 If she never initiates contact she's probably not really interested, just being polite. On your date she didn't seem to be interested and when you asked if she wanted to go out again she gave you a polite reply just to be nice. She would have been more enthusiastic if she was really interested. If I were excited about a guy I had just gone out with I would reciprocate the interest and want to go out again before two weeks. 1
Ninjainpajamas Posted November 21, 2013 Posted November 21, 2013 Let her reciprocate interest/enthusiasm....if she's not interested she's not going to make any effort, not sure why guys feel the need to try and motivate women into seeing them, isn't your time worth anything to you? Date someone who shows interest, don't be just an option for a girl who's going through a rut and shuffling through nice guys that she could put on the back-burner that she'd never really fully be into.
Author jj_999 Posted November 21, 2013 Author Posted November 21, 2013 She did say on the date "you must have girls asking you out constantly" and I mean why would even say yes to be nice... come on
Outsider77 Posted November 21, 2013 Posted November 21, 2013 Because she doesn't want to hurt your feelings. Women do that; I should know, I am one.
d0nnivain Posted November 21, 2013 Posted November 21, 2013 I left my 1st date with the man who is now my husband convinced he didn't like me. You can't make assumptions. Pick up the phone, call her, ask for the 2nd date. If she says no, move on. If she says yes, see how it goes.
bumpyroad Posted November 21, 2013 Posted November 21, 2013 (edited) Hi could really use some advice... So I went out a girl to a restaurant for a first date. It seemed like she had fun but from I could tell she definitely wasn't into me. I even mentioned oh well we could do ___ sometime and she kind of brushed it off. Then after the date she said It was nice but got out of there really quickly - no kiss. I thought forsure it was going nowhere so I said hey why not just see - so I sent her a text saying thanks for dinner and I asked if she was interested in going out again. She replied "thanks! sure : ) have a good week" Now it's been two weeks ...she never initiates contact ... I've texted the past two weekends. First weekend just said hi how was your week... it took her alittle while to respond. .. Not really interested, and doesn't want to seem rude/mean by ignoring you. Edited November 21, 2013 by bumpyroad
Andy_K Posted November 21, 2013 Posted November 21, 2013 Thread A "Ask her out, she hasn't said she doesn't want to date you" Thread B "Why can't guys ever take a hint?"
J21 Posted November 21, 2013 Posted November 21, 2013 Don't stress it and move on. Its been too long (imo) with no texts or calls in between.
jimloveslips Posted November 21, 2013 Posted November 21, 2013 >So I'm pretty sure she's not interested Answered your own question...
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