Sugarkane Posted November 21, 2013 Posted November 21, 2013 They've seen you with someone else? This is the impression I get from this site and others?
RespectfullyAlone Posted November 21, 2013 Posted November 21, 2013 Or they fall flat on their face with the new guy/girl whom they left you suddenly to be with, and it doesn't work out. If they have regrets, that will remember the people who treated them well. If they are still living it up with the new person, they won't remember you at all. Thus they have to fail, and fall down, and then just maybe they might care for what they have done, the decisions made, how they hurt people and the process they did so. Other than that, honestly I think most dumpers don't give a damn.
r321148 Posted November 21, 2013 Posted November 21, 2013 Completely disagree. Sometimes it's as hard to dump somebody as it is to be dumped. I have been on both sides of this. Often seeing them with someone else makes no difference to your decision if you have sound reasons for breaking up with someone. Obviously it will be painful if you find out that they have moved on and you still haven't but that's not a reason to go back to a broken relationship. At times this can be a spark for someone to realise they made a mistake (if their reasons were a bit sketchy) but certainly not always. "Dumpers" on here are often talked about like a different species. I'm a dumpee in my most recent relationship but I don't hate my ex for breaking up with me. I don't understand her decision still but I'm sure she had her reasons.
StrongLass Posted November 21, 2013 Posted November 21, 2013 They only care if they've seen you with someone else? That's not the ONLY reason, but it is one of the most common.
2fargone Posted November 21, 2013 Posted November 21, 2013 They've seen you with someone else? This is the impression I get from this site and others? I'm not sure what it is about the ego of many dumpees here that makes them think it's always something THEY do that gets the ex back or in contact. To me it just doesn't work that way. Besides think about it. If it takes for them to see you with someone else, so fear based... Is that really teh reason you want them to care/contact/come back ?
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