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i have a friend (male) that many say shows signs of liking me. i get that feeling he likes me too (im female) except sometimes he will call me sis and this throw me off. not all the time, but pattern seems to be when he shows lots of attention to me earlier that week. then suddenly the next time he will call me sis. is he calling me sis cuz he wants to hide his true feelings cuz he doesnt know how i feel about him or he wants to establish that he only sees me as friend?

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One way to know for sure. Kiss him on the lips and watch his reaction.

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One way to know for sure. Kiss him on the lips and watch his reaction.

 

too shy :o

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When someone calls you "sis", they're not interested in you romantically. Typically at least. I can't imagine using a familial expression as a nickname for a romantic interest. That would be creepy x creepy.

 

but he would say things like how he wants to make out and other inneundo laced suggestions.

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At one point before my husband and I were dating, he had developed feelings for me before I'd shown any interest in him. He didn't think I was going to change, so he started trying to make himself think of me as the sister he never had in order to get over me. Maybe this guy is doing the same thing with you?

 

I'd pay attention to your behavior before he says this. If he says it more when you've been flirting with him, then he may be trying to warn you off. But if he's just been showing interest and not getting much positive feedback in return, then maybe he's trying to use it as a way to get over you.

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At one point before my husband and I were dating, he had developed feelings for me before I'd shown any interest in him. He didn't think I was going to change, so he started trying to make himself think of me as the sister he never had in order to get over me. Maybe this guy is doing the same thing with you?

 

I'd pay attention to your behavior before he says this. If he says it more when you've been flirting with him, then he may be trying to warn you off. But if he's just been showing interest and not getting much positive feedback in return, then maybe he's trying to use it as a way to get over you.

 

thx devilish innocent. funnily enough he will message me 10x in a week then when we meet up he'll be flirtatious. cuz i am still trying to read him i may or may not react back fliratiously. usually i dont but i am still open enough that i laugh. my gut tells me that he may realize he's messaged me too much and backing off for the reason i am unsure of. we are good friends, therefore i will respond back to his message or calls and whatnot. it's a normal relationship that we have so no need for him to act all strange and covert by calling me sister. I tihnk you are onto something tho.

how did your husband finally feel comfortable admiting his true feelings for you? what did you do to encourage him?

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Do you live in Alabama, by any chance?

 

LOL nah. soz mate.

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how did your husband finally feel comfortable admiting his true feelings for you? what did you do to encourage him?

 

Well, he was pretty honest from the very beginning. But I honestly thought I liked him as a friend after meeting him, so I told him we couldn't be more, and he tried to suppress his feelings after hearing that. He never completely hid them though. That was the period when he told me he was trying to think of me as the sister he never had. Then when I realized I liked him, I just started making comments to hint at my feelings such as saying what type of parents we'd be if we had kids together. That encouraged him to start opening up about his feelings again. I ended up sending him an on-line greeting card with the music to "I just called to say I love you" playing in the background one day, and we ended up being entirely open with each other about our feelings after that.

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Well, he was pretty honest from the very beginning. But I honestly thought I liked him as a friend after meeting him, so I told him we couldn't be more, and he tried to suppress his feelings after hearing that. He never completely hid them though. That was the period when he told me he was trying to think of me as the sister he never had. Then when I realized I liked him, I just started making comments to hint at my feelings such as saying what type of parents we'd be if we had kids together. That encouraged him to start opening up about his feelings again.

 

@devilish innocent - my friend is pretty insecure & afraid of rejection like most guys. sometimes he teasingly say such like "i think you like me" or "is it because YOU like me? wink wink" I would reply no (but it was cuz i couldnt read him and he said several times he cant read me)

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i have a friend (male) that many say shows signs of liking me. i get that feeling he likes me too (im female) except sometimes he will call me sis and this throw me off. not all the time, but pattern seems to be when he shows lots of attention to me earlier that week. then suddenly the next time he will call me sis. is he calling me sis cuz he wants to hide his true feelings cuz he doesnt know how i feel about him or he wants to establish that he only sees me as friend?

 

Going crazy

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