jenn78 Posted November 20, 2013 Posted November 20, 2013 My ex and I (we dated for just over a year, we were pretty serious) broke up about 6 months ago... Over the past two months we have been talking and hanging out a fair amount. We are trying to see if we should or can get back together. We have an insane emotional (as well as physical) connection. We broke up due to the fact I was unhappy some of the time because i found it hard to be in a relationship.. being vulnerable and such (it was my first serious relationship) and he got tired of me being said and he said he needed time to find himself and work on himself. I've told him I have no interest in just being his friend and he agrees. So we are taking things slow as per his request to feel it out. We are both so much happier together than we are apart. He says he doesn't want to have to say goodbye to me again because that was the worst thing he has ever gone through.. So this is where I need help.. I've never been in this situation before.. am I just being stupid here doing this "take it slow thing" and should I just leave... Part of me would rather just have it suck to not see him now (break my own heart on my own terms) than possibly have my heart broken by him again in a month.. what to do what to do!?! help.
J21 Posted November 21, 2013 Posted November 21, 2013 Part of me would rather just have it suck to not see him now (break my own heart on my own terms) than possibly have my heart broken by him again in a month.. Whats to say he will definitely break your heart in a month? It seems you are dooming the relationship before it even starts.. Clearly he is into you (saying goodbye to you was the worst thing he has ever gone through).. Work out the issues that caused the break up first (you being unhappy), lay down some ground rules, and see where it goes from there. If you and him are committed in putting forth the effort for something completely fresh and new, then I think it has a good shot of working out.
Author jenn78 Posted November 21, 2013 Author Posted November 21, 2013 i said in a month because there was a chance he would be moving out of the town we live in. Which he just told me tonight that he probably won't be back after christmas because he may have to move for a job... he says he wanted to keep on trying & doesn't want to leave but has to for financial reasons... and he doesn't think its practical to try to work on our relationship while doing long distance... ugh life.
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