LostConfused123 Posted November 28, 2013 Posted November 28, 2013 My ex of seven years would break it off and come back more times than I remember. I would always go NC with him. The breaks would last anywhere from a few days to a couple months. Always took him back but eventually fell out of love and got sick of it. To this day he tries to get back but I've stood my ground for almost two years. I still care about him but only as a friend. I have absolutely no interest in getting back together. He's not a bad guy, but I swear he likes to shake things up just for amusement. So glad that's over! 2
Salvatore85 Posted November 28, 2013 Posted November 28, 2013 The first time my ex and I broke up I begged and pleaded for about a month and of course nothing came of it. Instead of continuing on with that I decided to just move on with my life because I didn't think she was coming back. What happened after I decided to move on was quite possibly the best 6 months of my life. I partied, met girls, got in great shape, caught back up with old friends and had the most fun I've ever had. However like an idiot, 6 months after we broke up, while sitting at a table surrounded by beautiful German girls who just happened to be living in the states I sent my ex a text message. Ultimately we ended up back together, back in the honey moon phase and then it just died out again. Basically what I'm trying to say is go live your life, have a blast, meet new women, just live it up . And if you're surrounded by hot females with sexy accents do not, I repeat do not text your ex lol. You will regret it for a very long time. 3
me85 Posted November 28, 2013 Posted November 28, 2013 I'm about to block my ex's phone number so I will never have to know if or when she will ever contact me. There are still ways she can get to me if she wants to move mountains. Smartest decision I've made since BU. 1
melell Posted November 28, 2013 Posted November 28, 2013 How long ago was the break up? Who was the dumper? has he still continued to contact you every 3 weeks? Break up 6 months ago. He was the dumper, and I think he was pleased to be single. Yeah, he still contacts me now, but more like once a month. I delete the messages before reading them, or don't answer the phone. 2
LostConfused123 Posted November 28, 2013 Posted November 28, 2013 Break up 6 months ago. He was the dumper, and I think he was pleased to be single. Yeah, he still contacts me now, but more like once a month. I delete the messages before reading them, or don't answer the phone. Damn! You are STRONG!!! You delete before reading?? Wish I had that kind of metal! Good for you! I blocked him so I'll never know if he tries to contact or not....I could NEVER delete without reading....I have too much of the self harming, glutton for punishment curiosity....ha ha! that's why I just block. Hope you are having a good holiday so far! ((cheers!)) 2
Meadowgreen Posted November 28, 2013 Posted November 28, 2013 Don't hold your breath. Some never come back, and if you waste all this time waiting for them, that's time you could be investing in yourself. Love this!
Meadowgreen Posted November 28, 2013 Posted November 28, 2013 I broke up with somebody for a lot of valid reasons but I still loved him. About a year after we broke up I got a real sense that something was horribly wrong in his life. A few minutes of investigation seemed to confirm my suspicion so I called him. When he answered I said, "Don't hang up. Something's telling me something is really wrong in your life. How's your father? Can I help?" Turned out his dad was in a coma. Don't ask me how I knew but I did. We talked for about 2 hours. He was with his dad in another state. I susccessfully resisted the urge to hop on a plane & go help him. When we ended the phone call, I made him promise to call me if anything happened. About a month later I read his dad's obituary in the paper & was dissappointed that he hadn't called to tell me. I "forgave" him because he was grieving & it's not like I was still his GF. One of the issues that broke us up was his poor communication & unwillingness to let me in. Not knowing what to do, I reached out for his brother because my parents really wanted to go to the wake to pay their respects but nobody wanted to upset the family more by showing up. My EX's SIL called me back. She said that nobody wanted to impose on my elderly parents by making them travel to the funeral but that everyone was so comforted by their willingness to do so. She also said my EX would call me after the funeral. He never did. At that point I realized he'd never change & he'd never think I was good enough to be his wife / life partner. It really helped me to move on but I was glad I reached out because I truly loved his family. To this day -- 12 years later -- I miss his neice but know that he & I weren't meant to be. You sound like a truly beautiful person, one of life's rare treasures. He was a fool to let you go.
kjackson1 Posted November 28, 2013 Posted November 28, 2013 My ex called and sent texts randomly. I finally replied after two months. She is still giving mixed signals.
Meadowgreen Posted November 28, 2013 Posted November 28, 2013 I'm friends with two of my exes on Facebook (they're actually nice guys, we were just all too young and dumb at the time to really have mature relationships): Dude #1 I dated when I was 17, was crazy about him (he looked like Leonardo Dicaprio) but he was in a band and had the ego to go along with it. He blew me off after a few dates (we never slept together) and I was gutted (I probably invested way too much too soon to be fair) yeeeeears later he contacts me on Myspace (lol) like 'Sorry I was a bit of a knob to you all those years ago, you're a really nice, beautiful girl and I totally disrespected you. Should you ever move back to England I'd love to take you out sometime." As sweet as it was, I was already in love with another dude who's now my fiancee so my dinner date with mr Music Man never materialised! Still makes me smile though. Dude #2 was a handsome but dim Irish guy I met while living in Canada. We were only ever FWB and while I'd had horrendous experiences with that in the past it was different with Mr Irish, I guess because he was simply too sweet to be dishonest. I guess because we never had that intellectual or emotional connection, it was only ever about the sex, and at that point in my life that was exactly what I needed. He checks in every now and then but there's absolutely nothing there. He seems far too young for me now, lol. I recently had to NC a guy I fell in love with over 10 years ago but he never reciprocated, and it was this agonising performance where he'd flit in like a wasp and tell me all about who he was hooking up with (sometimes I wonder if it was to make me jealous but I really think it's because I'm like a eunuch in his eyes, despite him leaving a string of flirty comments on my FB photos). I told him why I was walking away (which in hindsight I shouldn't have bothered) so I really don't think I'll ever see or hear from him again. Meh.
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