Saber_Tooth Posted November 20, 2013 Posted November 20, 2013 Who's with me? My ex and I have been broken up for half a year after a horrible break up that included cheating on his end. NC for most of the last while. We broke NC and have been talking on the phone and seeing each other in person. Some great times, some horrible times. Many hard conversations for both of us. Where we stand: I would like to get back together eventually, but not immediately. He says that he is open to the idea that we will get back together, but that he could not do it right now, and is not sure that he will ever be ready. So for him it's a question of IF, for me it's a question of WHEN. We're not on the same page and we both know it. Bottom line: I am more willing than he is to try for a second chance in the future. That's why I'm here. I want to chronicle where this goes. - Will we be back to NC after we crash and burn? What exactly will the crash look like? - Will we be starting to date each other again? - Will we have settled in as friends and left the idea of a second chance behind? - Will nothing have changed? - Or will we be in a weird limbo-land of all of the above - plus any other scenario? I'm not asking you guys to tell me whether to do this or not. This is where I am. I know most of you will say, forget it, forget him, who does this kind of thing, who puts up with this crap, remember the bad place you were in a few months ago, NC NC NC NC now. But that's not going to happen, at least not today. I'm laying down my pride, and he has as well. I realize where I'm going is dangerous territory for ME. But I'm going to learn something from it, one way or another. You can come along with me if you'd like and you can say whatever you want, but just be warned that I might not do as you say!
Zahara Posted November 20, 2013 Posted November 20, 2013 He says that he is open to the idea that we will get back together, but that he could not do it right now, and is not sure that he will ever be ready. Enough said. Good luck.
Philosoraptor Posted November 20, 2013 Posted November 20, 2013 Hope you enjoy pain and continuing suffering. That's all you'll get by laying down your "pride" and begging for another chance with a guy who not only cheated on you but continues to play with your emotions. Regardless, hope I'm wrong and I wish you the best.
Simon Phoenix Posted November 20, 2013 Posted November 20, 2013 Bring a first aid kit, because this is going to be bloody.
r321148 Posted November 20, 2013 Posted November 20, 2013 I guess at least you recognise the fact there is a strong possibility that you're going to get hurt. If you accept that then fair enough. There's no real way anyone can tell if you'll end up back in NC, friends or whatever... Personally I don't think you're far enough on to be considering reconciliation yet. From your chat I think you've proved the 2 of you are not in the right place for a relationship and that nothing has really changed. I can't see this ending well but go on prove me wrong. Good luck to you.
mammasita Posted November 20, 2013 Posted November 20, 2013 He cheated on you - why do you want to fight for this....boy? No way this will end well. Absolutely ZERO chance. There's a better chance of you contracting mad cow disease. 1
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