alittledesperate Posted November 20, 2013 Posted November 20, 2013 (edited) We dated two months. Then pisssshh. She said she's confused. I didnt know how to handle. Reacted. Begged, begged, begged for three months. It was messy. I'm ashamed. She strung me along with breadcrumbs. Few days ago a girlfriend I was hanging out with said it's better I should know if she still loves me. I broke no contact of two days and she bombed me. I'm not the right guy for her, she said. Then, she did what is right for both of us. That the relationship was not supppsed to have happened. That she's doing now what she ought to have done. Called her later that night. I asked her does she know what I'm doing? She said 'trying to make it work.' Maybe I should have said yes. I said, I'm looking for closure. Then it exploded from there. She said I'm looking for something to hold on to, right? I said this conversation is leading nowhere and I ended it. Last night, after 40 hours of no contact, she sent me a 'Hi' breadcrumb. I ignored. People say I should move on. But I'm like really? Someone is setting up a rebound for me but I really want to make this work!!! I'm even going to become a Christian for her. What do I do??? Edited November 20, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
LadyM Posted November 20, 2013 Posted November 20, 2013 I don't know if there is anything you can do to win her back, but I'm proud of you for going NC after her "hi" breadcrumb. I know that could not have been easy for you and how tempted you probably were to respond. I know you want the relationship to work, but that is a one-sided feeling. She is not interested in making it work. And if she is, I promise you, she will make it perfectly clear to you. In the meantime, keep up the good work with NC. 2
Author alittledesperate Posted November 20, 2013 Author Posted November 20, 2013 Thank you LadyM! I freaked out when I saw her breadcrumb. But I know better now. Twice in the past I did no contact. But on both occasions, she'd call on the fourth day and say she hasn't heard of me. I'd be all over her and when the cycle is done, I won't be able to get out of bed. It's like my heart has broken countless times. I just don't know why she does not want to make it work. One time, the night her friend held her up anonymously on my behalf and she said it's over, she said she's sorry, can't do it again, that it's like falling sick. Then to my why, she said, 'I got angry, got tired, it's over'. University will soon resume. That we wont be together kills me more. I'll just stick to NC.
LadyM Posted November 20, 2013 Posted November 20, 2013 Thank you LadyM! I freaked out when I saw her breadcrumb. But I know better now. Twice in the past I did no contact. But on both occasions, she'd call on the fourth day and say she hasn't heard of me. I'd be all over her and when the cycle is done, I won't be able to get out of bed. It's like my heart has broken countless times. I just don't know why she does not want to make it work. One time, the night her friend held her up anonymously on my behalf and she said it's over, she said she's sorry, can't do it again, that it's like falling sick. Then to my why, she said, 'I got angry, got tired, it's over'. University will soon resume. That we wont be together kills me more. I'll just stick to NC. She has her reasons for not wanting to make it work, but you don't need to know the details as it will only serve to make you feel bad. And she only contacts you because she may be feeling lonely for a moment so she reaches out to someone familiar who cares for her. You. But you're doing great in not falling for that again. These dumpers don't care that they make us feel ill by throwing breadcrumbs - they ONLY care about themselves. You're so fortunate to be at University as wherever you look, there are women all over the place, women who would feel lucky to be with you. You're doing great and will be fine!
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