okc85 Posted November 20, 2013 Posted November 20, 2013 So, I think 'no contact' is generally a good idea, but I hate seeing how much people on here beat themselves up over breaking no contact. It reminds me of how alcoholics act when they slip up and have some drinks. Why count the days? We are human. We might slip up and contact someone. My unrequited love keeps getting in touch with me in subtle ways. I do respond, because it's just how I am. To be honest, every time she contacts me, I feel like I realize my feelings are finally starting to fade. I mean, why would I want to be with someone who doesn't really want me, anyway? Regardless, she meant something to me, and I don't want to pretend she doesn't exist. I don't think it's helpful. 2
d0nnivain Posted November 20, 2013 Posted November 20, 2013 NC is a tool . . . nothing more, nothing less. Some people need a clean break. Others prefer to rip the band-aid off slowly. 1
Author okc85 Posted November 20, 2013 Author Posted November 20, 2013 Yea, maybe I'm more of the 'rip the band-aid off slowly' type 1
AnnaAnna Posted November 20, 2013 Posted November 20, 2013 Some relationships and people are very addictive so we are in a way like alcoholics. Just trying to recover and survive. 3
Meadowgreen Posted November 20, 2013 Posted November 20, 2013 Yea, maybe I'm more of the 'rip the band-aid off slowly' type I tried tearing my band aid off slowly when it came to my unrequited love. Like you, he just kept popping up, and every time I thought I was over him he'd say something vaguely flirty and get me all giddy again... so in the end, for the sake of my sanity and my love for the actual good, caring man I share my life with, I had to rip that sucker off for good. I recommend you do the same. If it's meant to be, it will be, but you shouldn't put yourself through this torment hoping they'll magically come to their senses and want you back. 1
GatsbyMH Posted November 20, 2013 Posted November 20, 2013 When I split with my wife I considered doing NC but it seemed cold and hateful. I decided I would try to help her through it since I was the one who initiated our split. It was easier for me since I had less emotional attachment. But now six months later we get along really well. I explained why I wasnt happy and she accepted it. It wasn't easy and we fought a lot but it was better than being hateful and distant. 1
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