mysteriouschic Posted November 20, 2013 Posted November 20, 2013 Me and this guy have been speaking for 2 months just general casual conversations about how we are and what we're up to etc.. I'm 20 he's 27. I didn't expect us to be talking this long. He's suggested meeting about 3 weeks ago just said “are you going out this weekend? I'll be out Sunday if you're in town . We haven't messaged as much this week. I messaged him at the weekend. We had our casual conversations he said “I'll be in my town next week you should come down” but i said I was busy and as I didn't want to go to his town. Then he asked* "Have you ever been ice skating?" I said "Yeah but I always fall and asked if he'd been. He said"Na I've never been but always wanted to go. Maybe if you decide to meet up we could do that unless you're too worried you might fall and kill yourself lol"* I replied "Yeah we could would be fun haven't been in years. Haha I'm not too bad with the falling might be better the next time I go lol."* After then he asked about the town I was from . I'm not sure if it's because there's loads of ice rinks around there and he wants to see which is the closest. He's comes up here a lot he didn't bring up the ice skating again and we just spoke casually about how our day was, and what we were doing. He didn't reply back to the last message me just saying what I was doing an asked if he watched this show. Should I ask him out instead for the week after. saying "Hey hows things? How was your weekend get up to much? I should be free next weekend if you still wanna go ice skating?" We haven't spoke as much in the past 2 weeks like during the week mainly at the weekend maybe because we already get along. I think he is interested but we've been speaking so long and maybe just wants to meet? And since he's suggested it. Or should I wait for him to suggest ice skating again? Should I assume he's interested since he's been casually asking me out? but i've been busy most the times What do you think does he seem interested?
d0nnivain Posted November 20, 2013 Posted November 20, 2013 At this point if you want to meet with him I think the ball's in your court: reach out to set up a date / time for ice skating.
Author mysteriouschic Posted November 20, 2013 Author Posted November 20, 2013 Oh right do you think he's waiting for me to ask him? or possibly thinks I don't want to meet? Does he like me?
d0nnivain Posted November 20, 2013 Posted November 20, 2013 Oh right do you think he's waiting for me to ask him? or possibly thinks I don't want to meet? Does he like me? He wouldn't keep talking to you at all if he didn't have some interest. I think he may be wondering if you are serious about meeting. The best way to jump start this is to take action -- you set a date time for skating. It's better than ringing your hands & wondering. 1
Author mysteriouschic Posted November 20, 2013 Author Posted November 20, 2013 Yeah he didn't reply to my last message it was just casual he'd just asked what I was doing and that. I just said what I was doing and asked if he watched this show. I'll text this maybe at the weekend "Hey hows things? How was your weekend get up to much? I should be free next weekend if you still wanna go ice skating?" Is that why he's slowed down the messaging even though we spoke a lot over the weekend he's just thinking I don't want to meet? 1
Author mysteriouschic Posted November 20, 2013 Author Posted November 20, 2013 Or should I send it this week? as I already said I was busy so I'm not sure. I think I'm just worried about appearing clingy.
d0nnivain Posted November 20, 2013 Posted November 20, 2013 Or should I send it this week? as I already said I was busy so I'm not sure. I think I'm just worried about appearing clingy. I don't see how asking if he wants to go skating on a particular day next week is clingy.
Author mysteriouschic Posted November 21, 2013 Author Posted November 21, 2013 I'll ask him at the weekend as it's not for this week. I'll say "Hey hows things? Are you still up for ice skating I'm free next week if you wanna go?" Does that message sound okay? 1
Author mysteriouschic Posted November 21, 2013 Author Posted November 21, 2013 At the start when we first got talking 2months ago he said he was just looking for fun and I said I was just going with the flow just getting to know someone and take it from there. I didn't expect us to be talking long for that reason. He's never brought up sex or anything. Other guys would try to get you to meet up fast or start talking sexual. He hasn't done any of that we've just been talking a lot and it's only over the past 3 weeks he's brought up the meeting thing.
Author mysteriouschic Posted November 21, 2013 Author Posted November 21, 2013 When's the best time to ask? will I ask during the weekend like on Saturday or Sunday or Monday afterwards? or maybe this message "Hey hows things? How about we go ice skating like you mentioned if you still wanna go? I'm free next week"
Author mysteriouschic Posted November 22, 2013 Author Posted November 22, 2013 Would it be to last minute if I asked him out for this weekend? and said I'm free this week or next week? or just stick to next week? I was busy but the things I was going to do ended up not going ahead.
Gottabestrong Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 He might think you are not that interested since you said no a few times when he asked you to meet up. I think the ball is in your corner. Just send him a text this weekend asking him if he wants to go ice skating next week and see what he replies. Good luck! 2
clia Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 This is just painful to read. One of you needs to make a plan. I can't believe you've wasted two months talking online to this guy and have never even met him. Frankly, he's probably getting tired of the virtual relationship. Aren't you? Would it be to last minute if I asked him out for this weekend? It's totally last minute, but you have nothing to lose, and you have turned him down several times without offering an alternate plan, so the ball is in your court. Ask it like this "Do you want to go ice skating on Sunday?" Give him a day. Stop being wishy washy about it. and said I'm free this week or next week? or just stick to next week? Stop with the "this week, next week" stuff. Give him a specific day that you are free. "This week, next week" is too vague and leads nowhere, as you have found. 1
Author mysteriouschic Posted November 22, 2013 Author Posted November 22, 2013 He might think you are not that interested since you said no a few times when he asked you to meet up. I think the ball is in your corner. Just send him a text this weekend asking him if he wants to go ice skating next week and see what he replies. Good luck! I thought I did agreed when I said ""Yeah we could would be fun haven't been in years. Haha I'm not too bad with the falling might be better the next time I go lol." Or did it not sound direct or something? was that not the best response?
Gottabestrong Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 It was a good reply, though a bit non-committal. What did he reply to that? It might have been better if you had suggested a specific day, but that is hindsight. Since you can't change the past, I suggest looking forward and concentrating on that. I agree with clia, just send him a text today if you want to ask him out for Sunday or one over the weekend if you want to ask him out for next week. Do that and take it from there, no point in analyzing the past right now. 1
todreaminblue Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 I thought I did agreed when I said ""Yeah we could would be fun haven't been in years. Haha I'm not too bad with the falling might be better the next time I go lol." Or did it not sound direct or something? was that not the best response? when i am hesitant with a guy i wont set a date.,.....ill say ok sounds fun.......when i am serious i add call me when you are ready we will set it up ....and i always confirm plans...that's when i am seriously interested other wise i hope they dotn call badk.....with a non committal from me.....i hav e a problem with the word no.....which is not goo di know.....but thats why i am pretty careful normally who i date.,..the last thing i want to have is a grope session where i freeze up and silently scream in my head.......be careful you havent met this guy...take precautions....ask him out some where public........best of luck..deb
Author mysteriouschic Posted November 22, 2013 Author Posted November 22, 2013 It was a good reply, though a bit non-committal. What did he reply to that? It might have been better if you had suggested a specific day, but that is hindsight. Since you can't change the past, I suggest looking forward and concentrating on that. I agree with clia, just send him a text today if you want to ask him out for Sunday or one over the weekend if you want to ask him out for next week. Do that and take it from there, no point in analyzing the past right now. He was just asking where I was from again like what area of the city I was from after . He also asked if he met me in a club before that he remembers meeting a girl that looked like me but it wasn't me. Then just spoke casually like what we were up to. etc and what we were doing and that was it then he didn't reply to the last which was me just saying what I did and I asked if he'd watched this show.
Author mysteriouschic Posted November 22, 2013 Author Posted November 22, 2013 when i am hesitant with a guy i wont set a date.,.....ill say ok sounds fun.......when i am serious i add call me when you are ready we will set it up ....and i always confirm plans...that's when i am seriously interested other wise i hope they dotn call badk.....with a non committal from me.....i hav e a problem with the word no.....which is not goo di know.....but thats why i am pretty careful normally who i date.,..the last thing i want to have is a grope session where i freeze up and silently scream in my head.......be careful you havent met this guy...take precautions....ask him out some where public........best of luck..deb Oh right I didn't realise I came off as not interested I can see why he may think I'm not interested and since I have been busy the times I've asked. He must think I just want to chat and not meet. I have met guys before but usually much quicker like after a week or two not as long as 2months. 1
Author mysteriouschic Posted November 22, 2013 Author Posted November 22, 2013 It was a good reply, though a bit non-committal. What did he reply to that? It might have been better if you had suggested a specific day, but that is hindsight. Since you can't change the past, I suggest looking forward and concentrating on that. I agree with clia, just send him a text today if you want to ask him out for Sunday or one over the weekend if you want to ask him out for next week. Do that and take it from there, no point in analyzing the past right now. I'm not sure he'd be free this weekend and since he lives like 2 hours away I think he might want more notice. I'll ask him tomorrow or Sunday for next week hopefully he'll reply and say yes.
todreaminblue Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 Oh right I didn't realise I came off as not interested I can see why he may think I'm not interested and since I have been busy the times I've asked. He must think I just want to chat and not meet. I have met guys before but usually much quicker like after a week or two not as long as 2months. yeah i think its time to set that date up...the distance is going to cause problems though for both of you .......i feel it will...i wish you all the best ...deb 1
Author mysteriouschic Posted November 22, 2013 Author Posted November 22, 2013 yeah i think its time to set that date up...the distance is going to cause problems though for both of you .......i feel it will...i wish you all the best ...deb He said when we first got talking thats he's always up here so it's not too bad it's only one meet I'll just see what happens. 1
todreaminblue Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 He said when we first got talking thats he's always up here so it's not too bad it's only one meet I'll just see what happens. please just make sure its public...you seem a jumpy type...a bit insecure so dotn put yourself at risk for any male you meet off the internet...i get them to pick me up at my house......so the people inside have seen the car and the man.......i dont invite them in and i take them public where other people can see ...........take care....deb
Author mysteriouschic Posted November 22, 2013 Author Posted November 22, 2013 please just make sure its public...you seem a jumpy type...a bit insecure so dotn put yourself at risk for any male you meet off the internet...i get them to pick me up at my house......so the people inside have seen the car and the man.......i dont invite them in and i take them public where other people can see ...........take care....deb Yeah I always do public and it's ice skating this one. I make my way there and back myself. Funny you said that lol I actually made a mistake jumping into a relationship with another guy we'd only spoken for 2 weeks got together very quickly , I learnt my lesson from that not to do that again. 1
Author mysteriouschic Posted November 23, 2013 Author Posted November 23, 2013 He replied back to my message today. I'll ask him out in a while when he replies back.
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