redshift Posted November 20, 2013 Posted November 20, 2013 I'm pretty sure my ex fiancee suffered from GIGS, but I'm not sure. She's Catholic and I'm an agnostic atheist, and I was always upfront about it. I supported her in her faith, but it wasn't for me. When we met, I was hateful after years of bullying, and she was hurt because her last boyfriend used her. After a year and a half together, I proposed before we went off to college, she said "yes" of course. We were together though all those years through long distance. She was planning our wedding, bought a dress over the summer. I finished classes in only 3 years so I could get a job to work in her area. I used the last 1500 dollars of my mom's death benefit to move out to her in Charlotte from Miami. I had to go home to Illinois for a couple of months to get some interviews. 3 days before I was going to start interviews, she called me on Skype and said "I can't do us anymore". I was speechless, I had based my whole life on this, I was days away from having a job and a place. She told me that she had watched the good little Catholic boys with their Catholic girlfriends and that had become necessary to her. She told a mutual friend that she was "filled with joy" after breaking up with me. I worked my ass off just to live close to her. I loved her, I know that she had loved me. It's only been 5 weeks, we were not far from four and a half years. She's already looking into other guys. She's cut off all communication with me. I moved out to Salt Lake City thanks to help from my father and uncle. Now I don't have any friends in person because I work 6 days a week. She's living it up with her college friends. I think she may be going through the quarter life crisis as well, she stated that if she could go back to beginning college, she'd want to go for art instead of math. (before she broke it off) Once she broke up with me, she became mean and vindictive. I wish I had the woman who'd beg me to skype with her because she needed me. I keep going back and forth, one day, I can work and I fell alright, the next day I feel incredibly lonely. One day I'm angry, the next day I'm grieving as if I watched my mother die again. So my question is, is it really GIGS (I think it is) or am I being silly and it's really a fundamental difference (I mean it is a fundamental difference, but mixed religion marriages are more frequently successful than homogeneous marriages)? I hope we all understand the differentiation between what I'm trying to say. Also, I know I left out all of the romance, I have thousands of notes and texts and emails and memories. I'm too smart to have moved to her if I had any inkling at all that this was going to happen.
Author redshift Posted November 20, 2013 Author Posted November 20, 2013 messed up the spelling of the title, classic
Author redshift Posted November 22, 2013 Author Posted November 22, 2013 is there a way to delete threads? It doesn't seem like this added to the community or vice versa.
blotter Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 Doesn't really matter which it is at this point. GIGS, fundamental difference, she turned gay, doesn't matter. It's over and she is moving on to other relationships. Don't waste time sitting around pondering why she bailed you will never get a satisfactory answer. Even if you asked her straight up why she broke up with you, her answer wouldn't relieve your suffering. Whatever answer she gave you would just spur more questions and more suffering, there is no point. It's time to accept that it is over, go NO Contact, move on to greener pastures.
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