Yulichka93 Posted November 20, 2013 Posted November 20, 2013 Let me start out by saying that i don't date many men because i'm very selective. I've only seriously dated two men. I've been currently dating a man for a full year. My ex, my first boyfriend, first love left for his mission for 2 years (he comes back this april.. so in a couple of months). His parents split us up because we were not of the same religion and they thought i was distracting him from what they wanted from him (though it was not what he wanted). During the 2 years he's been gone and the year i have spent dating this new guy i've missed my ex terribly. I would say i spend a good amount of time thinking about him, dreaming about him and even crying because it hurts so much that i don't have him. He recently wrote me and told me that he wants nothing to do with me when he comes home because he thinks i'm not good for him (because of the religion). But confusingly, he said that if he was to ever see me again, he wouldn't be able to resist from falling back in love with me. I'm happy with my current boyfriend, but i just can't shake these feelings for my ex. Do i need closure ? How do i move past this? what do i do ? 1
love1336x Posted November 20, 2013 Posted November 20, 2013 What type of closure would you like? Do you really just want to see him again to see if he falls in love? On less you plan on practicing the same religion, or becoming "secret" girlfriend he hides from his parents. I would strongly suggest to leave the past in the past. Enjoy your new life with your boyfriend... Dont open that wound up again. Remember the painful progress it took for you to be where you at now. The whole crying, feeling hopeless. If you see him or continue to talk to him you will reset everything and be back to square one. Alone and sad.
Pa76 Posted November 20, 2013 Posted November 20, 2013 Leave the past in past. Also it's not fair to your current boyfriend for you to not be completely into the relationship. You need to evaluate if you should be with someone. If you feel you want to be with current boyfriend then you need to as of today block ex from mind and move on. 3
mendsley Posted November 20, 2013 Posted November 20, 2013 I'm kida a wreck right now so my advice is on the whole religion aspect of your delima. I live in Lehi and I am not a "member" so I get judged everywhere I go. A relationship with someone in that "group" would be impossible due to the fact you will never be at their level since you are not a member. It is just a heartache waiting to happen. Do yourself a favor and accept your current life and leave the past in the past.
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