napy666 Posted November 20, 2013 Posted November 20, 2013 Is it true what they say about "It will happen again" as in relationships like if the guy and girl date then the guy dumps the girl but the girl wants the guy back but everyone tells the girl "Don't go back with him he will just hurt you again" and then she does and he does hurt her all over again. Or if a couple is together and the guy gets abusive hitting the girl and says he won't do it again but does. Do you think this is true or just a saying? In my dreams I've been thinking about my ex a lot on and off and keep wanting us to get back together again but know it won't happen and I don't want him back haha.
CherryT Posted November 20, 2013 Posted November 20, 2013 It really depends on the circumstances. I know high school sweethearts who have broken up (for years) and somehow found their way back together. They didn't break up on bad terms though... some were in college when it happened and just drifted apart. When life brought them back together, there was no hard feelings and they were able to start a new relationship in that time of their lives. Some have even gotten married. However, most relationship I believe that ended, ended for a reason. If it ended on bad terms there's usually resentment or trust issues. Those are hard to rebuild. Usually people fight for things that are comfortable to them. I was there. It felt "easier" to try and get back together, even though it wasn't working, then to move on. If someone cheated or was abusive, I would NEVER get back together with them. I understand there is a small percentage of those people changing, but to me, I couldn't trust them fully enough to be in a relationship with someone like that again. I could never overlook that. To me, cheating and physical abuse stem from impulsive issues. They don't see long term how their behaviour is and they act within that moment, however they feel is right in that time. Although they may not necessarily hit you or cheat on you again, I would also wonder what their impulsive nature can't control. So for me, if we break up... we'll stay broken up. My ex use to break up with me every chance he got, just to 'hurt' me. Whether we had a big disagreement or something small and petty. It left me feeling like I was walking on egg shells all the time. He used it as a manipulation tool. If we're in a committed relationship, we won't break up... we work together to work through our disagreements and compromise. My F showed me what real love and commitment is all about. When you love someone you can disagree and have your arguments here and there... but you don't turn your back on them. You may love them more on some days than others, but you work through it.
Author napy666 Posted November 23, 2013 Author Posted November 23, 2013 Oh I see what you mean. Guess it just depends on the couple and the person. :/
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