Haydn Posted November 20, 2013 Posted November 20, 2013 Your kidding yourself. You sound so sure she will contact you. Maybe she will? But then maybe she wont? What then? You should just drop out of her life until she comes a banging on your door. You give her far to much credit and yourself none. (Sorry i sound like Simon P) But that man has spoken the truth on more than one occasion. You are doing yourself no favours by thinking you are in control. She wants space? What does that tell you. You within 3 feet of her? No, it means you gone. Sorry but the sooner you stop the game the sooner you will know if she wants you. Takes care. 2
xUnknown Posted November 20, 2013 Posted November 20, 2013 I don't know man. I think I'm getting better pretty fast. It's been three days. During first day it was nightmare, I couldn't believe it. I actually sincerely hoped everything will be alright. Second day was quite hard to, but no where close to it and I came to realization that everything is probably over (there's a very slim chance like I mentioned before). Today, it seems like I'm getting a lot better. I will soon get healthy again (I'm kinda sick right now) so I will hit the gym and the flow of endorphins will make stuff wayyyyy much better. Also, I already made up plans for weekend, to hang with friends and just meet some new girls. Also, now I'm starting to think not about the good times we had, but about the bad ones and her behavior. It helps, a lot. And just like you pointed out, the way she took a 'break' was cheap and ****ed up, and it will eventually make it easier to move on I think. Good for you man. I always have that problem of only looking at the good times. I remember the bad, but I then overlook them and remember how she made me feel and all the good times we had together. Remember, the feelings come in waves. One day you're fine...then you get out of the shower and pick up the cologne she picked out for you and you hurt all over again --not that I would know from experience or anything =P. But they come in waves, like the ripple in the water when you throw a stone. It'll come back but it'll be less intense. In all honesty, I wish I never had the official "break up" talk. 2 weeks of NC and I was doing great (during the break). I set myself back by seeing her. So if you're seeing this as a BU (which it seems like you are-that's good)...and you're doing well coping and getting over her, I would suggest going single on fb...She knows you got the hint. She'll ask you about it most likely, you can just say "I saw this as a BU from day one, your actions showed me all I needed to know...I know what this is and I'm moving on." \I think you'll know the vibes (or lack there of) of what is going to happen...consider just dropping off though. Her lack of communication is making her actions clear.
Author Dertomok Posted November 20, 2013 Author Posted November 20, 2013 Your kidding yourself. You sound so sure she will contact you. Maybe she will? But then maybe she wont? What then? You should just drop out of her life until she comes a banging on your door. You give her far to much credit and yourself none. (Sorry i sound like Simon P) But that man has spoken the truth on more than one occasion. You are doing yourself no favours by thinking you are in control. She wants space? What does that tell you. You within 3 feet of her? No, it means you gone. Sorry but the sooner you stop the game the sooner you will know if she wants you. Takes care. Well I said what will happen if she doesn't contact with me during a month. It will be myself who will tell her that is all over and we are done. Then I will move on.
Author Dertomok Posted November 20, 2013 Author Posted November 20, 2013 Good for you man. I always have that problem of only looking at the good times. I remember the bad, but I then overlook them and remember how she made me feel and all the good times we had together. Remember, the feelings come in waves. One day you're fine...then you get out of the shower and pick up the cologne she picked out for you and you hurt all over again --not that I would know from experience or anything =P. But they come in waves, like the ripple in the water when you throw a stone. It'll come back but it'll be less intense. In all honesty, I wish I never had the official "break up" talk. 2 weeks of NC and I was doing great (during the break). I set myself back by seeing her. So if you're seeing this as a BU (which it seems like you are-that's good)...and you're doing well coping and getting over her, I would suggest going single on fb...She knows you got the hint. She'll ask you about it most likely, you can just say "I saw this as a BU from day one, your actions showed me all I needed to know...I know what this is and I'm moving on." \I think you'll know the vibes (or lack there of) of what is going to happen...consider just dropping off though. Her lack of communication is making her actions clear. Well, I don't have facebook due to reasons to save time lol. The only place where I have her is on skype. I'm yet thinking what kind of message it would send If I would just remove her. I already deleted her phone number and all of the photos I had of her in my PC.
Haydn Posted November 20, 2013 Posted November 20, 2013 Good start my friend. Now do the rest. Let her come crashing back to you. If she does. If not then you are free. Well, I don't have facebook due to reasons to save time lol. The only place where I have her is on skype. I'm yet thinking what kind of message it would send If I would just remove her. I already deleted her phone number and all of the photos I had of her in my PC.
xUnknown Posted November 20, 2013 Posted November 20, 2013 Well, I don't have facebook due to reasons to save time lol. The only place where I have her is on skype. I'm yet thinking what kind of message it would send If I would just remove her. I already deleted her phone number and all of the photos I had of her in my PC. Ahh okay. Yeah I'm still fb friends with mine, but she doesnt show up on my feed. I was thinking about deleting her/blocking her but I don't wanna do something I'll regret. I think it kind of looks childish..idk. I haven't checked so its kind of good knowing that I CAN check it if I want, but I chose not to. I was debating about disabling it for a few months....giving me time to get over everything. I'll come back when I'm ready and farther along and ready to be "friends"...or at least contact her to see how her life is going. I still have her number, again same reason as above. I know I can but chose not to. Obviously, months down the road...If I were to put a timeline to it, I'd say March/April. I don't go on skype, so I don't know if she deleted me from that. She did unfriend me from snapchat (after I blocked her) and unfollowed me from instagram, which I then blocked her there too (I never use my instagram so I was kind of shocked when I saw that she unfollowed me...like, umm, I don't use this at all but alright---blocked).
Author Dertomok Posted November 20, 2013 Author Posted November 20, 2013 Any more people having an opinion or advice about this whole sad situation?
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