ThomasD Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 . . . . i have to find the hand thats right for mine...... I DO have a hand story about my (now) wife. Recall, we wrote to each other sight-unseen for over 3 months before we met in person. On our first date, the day we met, we were in a part of town I wasn't familiar with. As we started walking on the sidewalk toward the event we were attending (a Gershwin review, performed by an ensemble from the symphony) I saw that she was carrying her purse on the side of her body away from me, and slightly swinging it as we walked. Knowing that she grew up on a farm in a rural community, I mentioned that wasn't a good practice in a major urban downtown area. I had her move the purse to the crook of her arm that was between us. It looked like that felt awkward to her, so to assist her I took that hand in mine. In the split-second of that moment I thought it was a somewhat daring move - after all, I had first seen the face of this girl just a couple hours earlier - and somewhat expected her hold to be rather formal and mechanical - like when your mom makes you hold grandpa's hand while saying grace at meals. To my surprise (and delight) she clasped my hand warmly and willingly, intertwining fingers. Or maybe "delight" isn't an accurate description. Perhaps "confusion"? Here we were, people who had just met, behaving quite affectionately toward each other. Yeah, it felt nice - but should I let it feel nice, if this was something she did with any guy? And was I doing it right - what would she do if I got too familiar, or otherwise did something I shouldn't? And on the unlikely chance that we encountered somebody I knew - would they think I was romantically involved with this beautiful, brainy, brunette creature? Obviously, I hadn't thought through all the implications of what had happened during several months of correspondence . . . .
todreaminblue Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 Nose, Feet, Hands.... there's all kinds of legends. I feel sorry for the guy with a big nose, huge hands, large feet, and a tiny penis. hahahahahahahahahahahaha wet myself......because its true......you cant tell a guys penis size by his hands feet or his nose...... i just like comparing hand sizes i like touching hands i am not thinking about penis i think abotu penis when i see a a bananna ...doesn tmean the bannaa is attractive to me...well acxtually lol...it is yums....i dont eat banana in public......i am likin the hand i am touchin when i am touching hands...smilin lol....now i cant stop smiling....and giggling......love love shack.....as much as ill love storm walking tonight....thats sayin something....lol....deb
todreaminblue Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 This definitely makes me smile . . . no, giggle. The urban legend I learned - going all the way back to High School in the 60's - is that you can tell the size of a guy's erection by observing his hand. So a girl who makes a point of examining a guy's hands is really evaluating him as a potential sex partner, or a guy who starts playing hand games with her is actually trying to impress her with his physical endowment. Of course, the underlying premise breaks down with even cursory examination (but I wasn't sharp enough to figure this out until my teen years were well past). First, women in general are only mildly concerned about a guy's genital size. And being large isn't necessarily desirable to some women. Second, the legend wasn't very clear about how the hand related to the penis. Some said it was the span (between the tips of the thumb and middle finger), some said it was a multiple of thumb length (3 times?), some said it was the distance from wrist to fingertip (it wasn't clear which finger - take your pick). Are these legends still in general circulation? banannas make me think of penis more than hands do or zuchinni or cucumber or cacti.....some cacti are very penile looking and actually have little balls at the bottom covered in hair greyish hair...always creep me out a bit..prickly penis..and i always end up laughing....and when someone asks me why you are laughing, i dont really say much....lol ...now that makes me think of penis.......lol.....giggling along with you.......deb
Author melell Posted November 23, 2013 Author Posted November 23, 2013 Hola fellow New Yorker. I don't mind the shy ones. As long as they can open up to me eventually. If they're shy throughout our whole trist, obviously it will be short lived. I see. I am really shy in social situations- but I pull it off well, stone cold, like I am 'too cool' for banter. One on one I warm up as normal. I was wondering in the social circuit sense, less sociable means less appealing to go socializing with? I feel like as a potential partner that aspect wouldn't be desirable. 1
MrCastle Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 I see. I am really shy in social situations- but I pull it off well, stone cold, like I am 'too cool' for banter. One on one I warm up as normal. I was wondering in the social circuit sense, less sociable means less appealing to go socializing with? I feel like as a potential partner that aspect wouldn't be desirable. Nothing wrong with that. You're an introvert I'm assuming? I used to be. And then I forced myself to become an extrovert. I think maybe it's different for women, but I can't see an introverted man being significantly good with women. I didn't like my options or lackthereof so I pushed myself to go out more and be more social. Admittedly, it does feel draining, being "on," I guess you would call it. Because I'm forcing myself to be so. But it's expanded my social circle and has gotten me places I didn't think I'd go. So for me personally, shy girls -- I get it. I get where they're coming from socially. I'm fine with it. If she was shy with me personally, as in, afraid to speak her mind, not very sexual in nature, not affectionate, etc, I would have a problem. 2
Author melell Posted November 23, 2013 Author Posted November 23, 2013 An introvert in certain ways, I go out quite a bit, but unless I am well and truly bottling up I just don't have a lot to say. I seem to observe the other person in conversation rather than participate- don't even notice I am doing it until I am prompted to speak. I do agree that it is easier for females to be this way. But still, I can't imagine a guy ever thinking 'she'd be cool to take out on the town', I think that could become a let down in the later stages of a relationship if the other person is quite social. 1
MrCastle Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 (edited) An introvert in certain ways, I go out quite a bit, but unless I am well and truly bottling up I just don't have a lot to say. I seem to observe the other person in conversation rather than participate- don't even notice I am doing it until I am prompted to speak.[/Quote] I'm the same. But I'm a scorpio and we're naturally observant by nature. With my close friends, I am extremely cerebral, and philosophical, and opinionated, but in social gatherings I'm mostly relegated to "yeah," "a huh," and "totally" . It also really depends on said social situation. In bars and lounges I have very little to say -- it's not exactly the kind of place that breeds or warrants particularly interesting dialogue. But if we're talking about going to a movie with a group, or something creative (I'm a writer) then I'm all over that. I'll lead the discussion. In school same thing, I'm pretty talkative before and after class, and it's easy for me to make friends. But bars and stuff, mostly a lot of drinking and nodding of the head. I do agree that it is easier for females to be this way. But still, I can't imagine a guy ever thinking 'she'd be cool to take out on the town', I think that could become a let down in the later stages of a relationship if the other person is quite social. Well keep in mind that just like you are somewhat introverted, so too are some men. A lot of it is body language. Through years of experience, I'd like to think I now know the difference between bitchy ice queen who wants nothing to do with me and a shy girl who just needs some one on one time. As long as you're not giving off the former vibe, you shouldn't have an issue finding guys who can appreciate the latter. Edited November 23, 2013 by MrCastle 2
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