confused83 Posted November 19, 2013 Posted November 19, 2013 Long story short she ended it with me as said she didnt feel enough for me which she thought she would do after 2 months together. But we spoke yesterday and I got mixed signals, she was crying apologising for hurting me because i fell for her which didnt help as think that may have pressured her to rush the same feelings rather than taking our time and letting it develop. Anyway she was saying things like 'i may see you out on the run up to xmas for a chat' and 'i believe if its meant to be it will be' im confused as to whether she likes me or not? well she obviously does but dont get why we couldnt just carry on dating and see if the feelings did come for her? i dont know whether to walk away or try to win her back
odin673 Posted November 19, 2013 Posted November 19, 2013 How long was it between her breaking up with you and the phone call? She could be relieving guilt. I wouldn't get my hopes up. Do you really want to be with someone that would discard you that easily? 2
ponchsox Posted November 19, 2013 Posted November 19, 2013 She's trying to ease her guilt. Maybe she wants you as a friend selfishly. Let her go, good riddance, she doesn't want to be with you. Find someone who can't be without you. 2
Author confused83 Posted November 19, 2013 Author Posted November 19, 2013 About 2 days I got that. We did talk a lot more than just thy and I do want to meet her again but I don't think she wants me that badly so don't know why I keep trying.
odin673 Posted November 19, 2013 Posted November 19, 2013 About 2 days I got that. We did talk a lot more than just thy and I do want to meet her again but I don't think she wants me that badly so don't know why I keep trying. You want to be friends with this girl? How will you feel when she brings her next boyfriend around? Personally, the only way I would consider seeing her is if she begged me to. Keeping you in limbo for a month with maybes is not fair to you. You need to put your foot down and demand an answer right away. If she's unsure go NC and start the healing process.
Author confused83 Posted November 19, 2013 Author Posted November 19, 2013 You want to be friends with this girl? How will you feel when she brings her next boyfriend around? Personally, the only way I would consider seeing her is if she begged me to. Keeping you in limbo for a month with maybes is not fair to you. You need to put your foot down and demand an answer right away. If she's unsure go NC and start the healing process. Suppose that's true, just never wanted to let her go, only 2nd girl I loved and I'm 30 but the other girl was over for both of us where as this feels I'm letting go of someone I don't want to. Feels awful
odin673 Posted November 19, 2013 Posted November 19, 2013 Suppose that's true, just never wanted to let her go, only 2nd girl I loved and I'm 30 but the other girl was over for both of us where as this feels I'm letting go of someone I don't want to. Feels awful It sucks. I've been there. You're in a tough spot and she's holding all the cards. At the very least, don't get your hopes up. If you forgo the confrontational approach, the next best thing is to distance yourself.
gaius Posted November 19, 2013 Posted November 19, 2013 Suppose that's true, just never wanted to let her go, only 2nd girl I loved and I'm 30 but the other girl was over for both of us where as this feels I'm letting go of someone I don't want to. Feels awful I hear that man but she's already gone. Sucks when you have to be the responsible one and ignore the guilt ridden fake glimpses of what might be that she gives you. It will get better eventually. 1
Author confused83 Posted November 19, 2013 Author Posted November 19, 2013 It sucks. I've been there. You're in a tough spot and she's holding all the cards. At the very least, don't get your hopes up. If you forgo the confrontational approach, the next best thing is to distance yourself. Not given her any hassle because not the kind of person I am, no aggressive or mardy messages just basically said ill miss her which I know is a bad thing to tell someone who doesn't want you. Horrible because she says she does really like me but something doesn't feel right. Suppose all I can do is move on but do you ever get over them when you felt that way? As like I said the ex we both wanted it over and to this day I don't feel anything for her just hoping I can feel the same way with the new one in time
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