HopingAgain Posted November 19, 2013 Posted November 19, 2013 (edited) Our first wedding anniversary since Dday was last weekend and although it was somewhat of an emotional rollercoaster...it turned out much better than eI expected. We went crabbing and to the coast for 3 days. We had a great time, lots of laughs, good food, great lovemaking, and just enjoying eachother.Its almost like the affair never happened....almost. I only thought about it once or twice the whole trip and WH was displaying such gratitude and happiness that it amazed me. He even said a prayer thanking God for allowing us to see another anniversary and for the weather being perfect for us another year despite the forecast calling for rain all weekend. It never rained once we both took it as a good sign:) I'm still working through some sadness and anger, and I know he is too. But the prevailing feeling right now is gratitude that we're getting through this one day at a time. This was our first major milestone in reconciliation I guess. Edited November 19, 2013 by HopingAgain 7
experiencethedevine Posted November 19, 2013 Posted November 19, 2013 Our first wedding anniversary since Dday was last weekend and although it was somewhat of an emotional rollercoaster...it turned out much better than eI expected. We went crabbing and to the coast for 3 days. We had a great time, lots of laughs, good food, great lovemaking, and just enjoying eachother.Its almost like the affair never happened....almost. I only thought about it once or twice the whole trip and WH was displaying such gratitude and happiness that it amazed me. He even said a prayer thanking God for allowing us to see another anniversary and for the weather being perfect for us another year despite the forecast calling for rain all weekend. It never rained once we both took it as a good sign:) I'm still working through some sadness and anger, and I know he is too. But the prevailing feeling right now is gratitude that we're getting through this one day at a time. This was our first major milestone in reconciliation I guess. I am delighted for you both, and the message that your lovely post sends out to those who are on the same journey and possibly still reeling gives such hope. Your efforts have been wonderfully rewarded, and a happy anniversary to you! 3
leonine Posted November 19, 2013 Posted November 19, 2013 Glad to hear it went well and I'm glad you let your WH make it an event. It shows that your husband wants to take care of you and demonstrate his gratitude, and it also shows that you are willing to open yourself up to him and his advances. With my BH's permission, I went all out for our first anniversary after d-day and it was really therapeutic for both of us. 1
Author HopingAgain Posted November 19, 2013 Author Posted November 19, 2013 I am delighted for you both, and the message that your lovely post sends out to those who are on the same journey and possibly still reeling gives such hope. Your efforts have been wonderfully rewarded, and a happy anniversary to you! Thank you so much, Experiencethedevine! It has not been an easy or smooth journey but so far its worth it. Its just good to come to a point where you feel like theres life and hope afterthe affair! 2
experiencethedevine Posted November 19, 2013 Posted November 19, 2013 Thank you so much, Experiencethedevine! It has not been an easy or smooth journey but so far its worth it. Its just good to come to a point where you feel like theres life and hope afterthe affair! My great pleasure dear lady, and having travelled the same journey many moons ago, I completely understand the enormity of your combined effort and commitment in overcoming the aftermath of such a traumatic event. Congratulating yourselves on your progress with a wonderful anniversary holiday is the perfect setting for generating good memories. 1
Author HopingAgain Posted November 19, 2013 Author Posted November 19, 2013 Glad to hear it went well and I'm glad you let your WH make it an event. It shows that your husband wants to take care of you and demonstrate his gratitude, and it also shows that you are willing to open yourself up to him and his advances. With my BH's permission, I went all out for our first anniversary after d-day and it was really therapeutic for both of us. Thank you, Leonine. Yes, I was very pleasantly surprised by my husbands demeanor. I do think it meant a lot to him that I was being positive and open to being vulnerable to him again. I had a lot of fear and hesitation leading up to our anniversary not knowing what to expect so it means that much more to me that all went well! 1
Snowflower Posted November 19, 2013 Posted November 19, 2013 Congratulating yourselves on your progress with a wonderful anniversary holiday is the perfect setting for generating good memories. I'm so glad to hear your anniversary went so well and you guys had so much fun! I wanted to add to what was said here and that for me at least, it was these new, good memories that really helped me heal and move forward. I know it isn't like this for everyone who reconciles but I found that the ensuing positive memories from a life well-lived really helped. 2
Author HopingAgain Posted November 19, 2013 Author Posted November 19, 2013 I'm so glad to hear your anniversary went so well and you guys had so much fun! I wanted to add to what was said here and that for me at least, it was these new, good memories that really helped me heal and move forward. I know it isn't like this for everyone who reconciles but I found that the ensuing positive memories from a life well-lived really helped. Thanks, Snowflower! What you just said about creating positive memories is something I will certainly keep in mind for the present and future. It does seem that each time we have a fun time together it takes some of the sting out of the affair memories, lessebs the impact a bit when triggers come along too. 2
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