lynnmaree Posted December 27, 2004 Posted December 27, 2004 I am australian, my soul mate indian, he will not choose me over his family. If he is with me they will totally disown him. How can a mother claim she loves her son then force him into a life of misery? How do i recover from the heartbreak of losing someone i love so much and who loves me??? Has anyone else been in this position, i need advice desperately............
alphamale Posted December 27, 2004 Posted December 27, 2004 Originally posted by lynnmaree I am australian, my soul mate indian, he will not choose me over his family. If he is with me they will totally disown him. How can a mother claim she loves her son then force him into a life of misery? How do i recover from the heartbreak of losing someone i love so much and who loves me??? Has anyone else been in this position, i need advice desperately............ I am from indian background too but born in england and raised in U.S. Let me give you some insight. Indian moms rule the roost and like to control their kids as much as possible. To preserve the integrity of the family (which is of #1 importance) they like their kids to have an "arranged" marriage. It makes it easy on everyone, esp the parents. So it is sorta selfish on their part. They say they will disown him but this is most likely an idle threat to get him to do what they want. If he ended up marrying you the family would most likely not disown him permanently and would come to accept you over time (esp after you have children). But then again the vast majority of "arranged" marriages I have seen have been pretty successfull. Mostly because the parents take much time and effort to find a suitable match with similar background, good family, equal socio-economic ties, etc... Any more questions please send me private message.
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