Pa76 Posted November 19, 2013 Posted November 19, 2013 I was dumped little over week ago. He told me he wasn't in love with me. Said his ex messed him up and he doesn't want a relationship with anyone. We were together for ten months. I know I deserve someone in my life and happiness. Would it be bad for me to put my profile back up soon? It's same site my ex and I met on (match.com). Don't like the other sites out there.
Philosoraptor Posted November 19, 2013 Posted November 19, 2013 Um, you can do what you want when you please. Dating and getting into something serious are two different things. Have fun, but don't let yourself fall into anything more than that until you've healed up from your past relationship.
jphcbpa Posted November 19, 2013 Posted November 19, 2013 Might be worth it to create a profile. Perhaps not load any photos up just yet. Fill out the profile, take your time and think about what you want in your next relationship. IMO, I would suggest giving it 60 to 90 days. Date yourself for a while. Take a trip, spoil yourself, reconnect with you, love on you, pamper you ect.
d0nnivain Posted November 20, 2013 Posted November 20, 2013 As soon as you are ready. There is no right time.
Babolat Posted November 20, 2013 Posted November 20, 2013 I was dumped little over week ago. He told me he wasn't in love with me. Said his ex messed him up and he doesn't want a relationship with anyone. We were together for ten months. I know I deserve someone in my life and happiness. Would it be bad for me to put my profile back up soon? It's same site my ex and I met on (match.com). Don't like the other sites out there. 1 weeks feels to soon, for me. Everyone is different though. I thought I was ready again after a 7 month break from a 12 month relationship, so I started OLD again. I have met 5+ woman in a short period of time from OLD. I don't know if I am not ready, if I have trust issues, if I am meeting the wrong type of women for me, or what, but, I can tell you, something is off and I am seriously considering stopping OLD and taking yet anohter break.
soccerrprp Posted November 20, 2013 Posted November 20, 2013 I was dumped little over week ago. He told me he wasn't in love with me. Said his ex messed him up and he doesn't want a relationship with anyone. We were together for ten months. I know I deserve someone in my life and happiness. Would it be bad for me to put my profile back up soon? It's same site my ex and I met on (match.com). Don't like the other sites out there. Whenever you are ready. I suspect your ex found someone else and gave you the excuse of his ex messing him up. After 10-months, I find it hard to believe that he's all of a sudden not wanting a relationship with "anyone." Good luck, be careful and have fun.
Author Pa76 Posted November 20, 2013 Author Posted November 20, 2013 Whenever you are ready. I suspect your ex found someone else and gave you the excuse of his ex messing him up. After 10-months, I find it hard to believe that he's all of a sudden not wanting a relationship with "anyone." Good luck, be careful and have fun. There isn't another person. When someone is burned by someone from past it can cause future problems. He was ready to propose to his ex and she dumped him so since then he hasn't wanted marriage. He lost his job and went to Florida to stay with his dad cause it affected him so much. I'm sure his dad was of no help since his dad is super negative about marriage. He has tried to have relationships since but hasn't been able to. He is seeing a therapist now. Wish he did that sooner! He said he tried to force (awesome word) love but he couldn't. He was scared to break up cause he didn't want me out of his life. His ex shut down her feelings and I feel recently when I shut down it reminded him of his ex.
acrosstheuniverse Posted November 20, 2013 Posted November 20, 2013 Whenever you want. I mean, it might seem bad taste for the dumper to put a profile up a week after breaking someone's heart but even in that scenario, it's entirely down to the individual, you're not together so you don't owe the other person anything. But you've been dumped. You can do what you like. I put a profile up a week after being dumped and getting my heart broken, it does say I'm not looking for anything serious but it has helped me to get over it just by chatting to people and seeing that I'm still desirable to other people. It's just a bit of fun.
mysteriouschic Posted November 20, 2013 Posted November 20, 2013 When I got dumped I went back on that day. The guy was also on the site to. Although any date I did go on I compared it to the ex and then I took a break after 3 weeks as I felt like I was rebounding . So I'd say maybe even take time to fully heal and not rush into it unless you are of course over the ex.
Author Pa76 Posted November 20, 2013 Author Posted November 20, 2013 Whenever you want. I mean, it might seem bad taste for the dumper to put a profile up a week after breaking someone's heart but even in that scenario, it's entirely down to the individual, you're not together so you don't owe the other person anything. But you've been dumped. You can do what you like. I put a profile up a week after being dumped and getting my heart broken, it does say I'm not looking for anything serious but it has helped me to get over it just by chatting to people and seeing that I'm still desirable to other people. It's just a bit of fun. I think I will put it up if not before the weekend then this weekend. Why should I delay my happiness cause of my ahole ex.
Keenly Posted November 20, 2013 Posted November 20, 2013 That day. In reality though, good luck creating an attractive profile while you are in break up mode. It will be a pretty depressing one.
Author Pa76 Posted November 21, 2013 Author Posted November 21, 2013 Decided to go back on the site today. I am still hurting. Feel it's mostly cause I have so much I want to say and point out to him. No way am I inflating his head and contacting him.
acrosstheuniverse Posted November 21, 2013 Posted November 21, 2013 No, don't contact. Keep your pride. Move on. Dating sites are fun because they remind you that you're attractive and desirable and show you how many single people there are out there. Don't go thinking you'll hit upon anything serious though, you're not yet going to be in the right place, and even if you do meet somebody you like you'll probably just be rebounding onto them anyway. Keep it fun and light.
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