My boyfriend and I had a mutual breakup. Will he ever contact me?

[PToprani]

So, basically, my boyfriend and I were dating for about 6 months. 3 months into the relationship, we broke up. It was about 90% my fault. I was emotionally unstable and we fought a lot. The next day, we reconciled and got back together. I wasn't as emotionally unstable, because I loved him and I was making massive changes in my life. I was doing all that I could to find any sort of compromises with him with any situation. However, we began to fall back into small, petty arguments about once or twice a week. I began apologizing for everything, and the guilt I was feeling was overwhelming. My boyfriend, now ex, would tell me what my issues were but never actually helped me out with them as much as I would have liked him too. All of our arguments ended with "I agree to disagree." And I felt no closure, and because of that I would be upset for the rest of the day, which would make him angry. Anyway, about 9 days ago I brought up the fact that we should probably just kind of go our own separate ways. Even though I initiated the break up, he agreed with my decision. We got into an argument because he thought I was being too short with my texts. I brought up how he should have called me if he thought something was bothering me. But yeah. It's been 9 days since I've heard from him. I texted him two days after the break up asking if he was alright, because I wasn't holding up too well. He never replied. I haven't texted him since. My ex grew up in a very solitude environment. He literally hasn't got a single friend. All he has is his older sister. So, he's used to being alone. I just need some advice. I know I can move on, I just don't want to. I love him far too much to just start moving on. We were both each others first love, and I was his first girlfriend. Do you think that if I give him space, he'll come back and communicate with me again? I'm sorry for the long story, guys, I just don't know where else to get advice! About this time last year, my ex and his step mother had a huge blowout. He needed to get out and clear his mind, so he packed his things and took a road trip from Florida to Maine. I had my friend text him a few days ago to see what he was up to, and apparently he's planning the same spontaneous road trip by himself again next month. I don't know if it's because of me or not.

[Philosoraptor]

Doesn't sound like there was a whole lot of stability in the relationship. With all the arguments there may have been a lack of compatibility as well. Honestly, it doesn't seem like there are a ton of reasons why he would want to come back.

 

On his end he seems to be taking care of himself and that starts with cutting you out of his life. You need to do the same and just take care of yourself from now on. He may make contact again one day, but I wouldn't hold onto that. Just take care of yourself and start the process of moving on.

[xUnknown]

Anyway, about 9 days ago I brought up the fact that we should probably just kind of go our own separate ways. Even though I initiated the break up, he agreed with my decision.

 

 

I think you two need to be apart for a while and figure your own selves out. I took the above quote because in all honesty, I feel like you should be the one to reconcile. I try to convince myself that my breakup was mutual, however, she was the one that brought it up to me.. Yeah, I agreed, but she brought the thought of the breakup up in the first place. In my scenario, she asked to be friends. I turned it down. I know she is hurting. But, I feel like she is the one that should do the reconciling, however, I almost guarantee you that because she thinks it was mutual, and I turned down the friendship, I should be the one to come back -sort of how you think HE should be the one to come back. I feel the person that brought up the breakup should be the one to go back. He probably agreed because he wanted to get it done and over with, have the best possible chance in the future at another attempt, and to leave with some dignity....sounds a lot like why I agreed with the breakup....

[PToprani]

I understand what you're saying. I think we both did a lot of things to each other that was hurtful, but we were both each others first love and our good times were perfect. I had texted him about 7 days ago, but I never got a reply. I'm awfully tempted to text him again, but I'm afraid that I'll seem clingy and needy :/

[xUnknown]

I understand what you're saying. I think we both did a lot of things to each other that was hurtful, but we were both each others first love and our good times were perfect. I had texted him about 7 days ago, but I never got a reply. I'm awfully tempted to text him again, but I'm afraid that I'll seem clingy and needy :/

 

Give it some time...give it another week or two. If you still feel the same way, don't just text him I miss you. He sees it as YOU breaking up with him....so YOU have to do the effort, apologize, tell him what you will work on. If he accepts it, great, but take it slow, you both have things you have to work on.. Again, you brought up the idea for the breakup, so you initialized it...