Pa76 Posted November 19, 2013 Posted November 19, 2013 Since I was dumped last week I have been hating holidays. Already told my family I won't be around for them. I'm so sick of hearing the music, seeing commercials and crap in stores. Ex and I had plans for Thanksgiving for a month then bam dumped. He will still be going (at his sisters house) while I feel like crap cause he tore my heart out. Birthday is soon too. Never fun to be dumped (first time I've been dumped) but this time of year sucks! All of my friends are married. Even my cousin is living with a guy and she use to never commit. Fk my life I want to find a genie to grant me three wishes.
Philosoraptor Posted November 19, 2013 Posted November 19, 2013 Eh, you don't need to hate the holidays. A few years back I had a bad breakup right around the holidays and I made the best of it. Ended up staying withe my parents on Christmas sleeping on the top bunk of my sisters bed. Not sure your relationship with your family, but it's one of the best ways to help you not only forget the ex for a little while, but enjoy yourself as well. In the end, don't let the actions of your ex ruin your current happiness. Ex is gone, no need to spend your personal time miserable because he decided to leave.
d0nnivain Posted November 20, 2013 Posted November 20, 2013 It's OK to hate the holidays this year. I don't recommend barricading yourself away from your family though. You will need their love & support.
barky2 Posted November 20, 2013 Posted November 20, 2013 I have the word family tattooed on me for a reason. Understandably you're on edge,irritable ect Doesn't matter. Family is and who will always be there for you. Embrace it. Ya holidays sucked last year, but never let them see you sweat. Barky 3
ponchsox Posted November 20, 2013 Posted November 20, 2013 No way I'm letting me ex ruin my holidays. Not happening. Heck, I'll be happier without them. And I will save money. 1
Kansas87 Posted November 20, 2013 Posted November 20, 2013 I usually LOVE the Christmas season but yeah, this year it's going to be rough. For the past two Thanksgivings the ex came with me to my parents, and this year I'll be alone. Last two Christmases we spent together too. So it's going to be rough. Oh yeah, and then NYE and insane social pressure to go out to some party. My plan is to get back to my roots. Watch all the sappy Christmas specials I can get my hands on, listen to Christmas music, drink hot cocoa, and just generally be happy. If you can't (or don't want to) see your family for the holidays (one year I couldn't afford to fly home for Thanksgiving and it was the WORST one EVER), definitely try to find something, anything, to do to get out of the house. Check around- a lot of churches and homeless shelters and soup kitchens have open to the public events. It may be weird and awkward, but you could always show up there just to meet some people, even if they're not your usual social class. Call ahead and ask if they need volunteers for the holiday season. Go to a department store and grab a couple kids' names off the tree and buy them presents. See if there are any singles events going on in your area (even if it's something you never thought you'd do, like speed dating). Go to the movies by yourself (buy popcorn and candy and make it fun). Go to a coffee shop and write in a journal and people-watch.
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