cocoaraisinsx Posted November 19, 2013 Posted November 19, 2013 Ok so I just moved on from a really long relationship, very briefly dated another guy and I am over him too. I need to meet other people. How do I get guys to notice me at bars? I usually go with a friend because I feel like going by myself is a bit weird and uncomfortable. Should I go in work clothes after work or should I get dolled up?
d0nnivain Posted November 19, 2013 Posted November 19, 2013 Dolled up is good. Shiny dangly jewelry that is not too busy helps. On a primal level it's like a fishing lure. Body language is key. You have to be approachable. If you are huddled with your friend guys won't approach you because you will look closed off. I'd sit at the bar, wear a skirt, cross your legs, smile & sit at an angle so you not flush, shoulder to shoulder with your friend. Literally you have to keep the space between you two open for others to come into your circle. Don't get plastered. Drink something that is served in stem ware & play with it. Know enough about sports to ask intelligent questions about whatever is on TV. You don't have to be a rabid fan but it really helps.
Kate9292 Posted November 19, 2013 Posted November 19, 2013 Show a bit of skin, but not too much. You don't want to be naked but a revealed bit, like shoulder, might work on their imagination. Wear some nice heels. Guys notice it more than you think. I love my platforms Makeup is mixed bag. I always have some on me when I go out, but not always go all the way. I often skip concealer and it made no difference for guys, especially in bars.
Johnson1 Posted November 19, 2013 Posted November 19, 2013 Ok so I just moved on from a really long relationship, very briefly dated another guy and I am over him too. I need to meet other people. How do I get guys to notice me at bars? I usually go with a friend because I feel like going by myself is a bit weird and uncomfortable. Should I go in work clothes after work or should I get dolled up? Without question, get dolled up. There isn't a guy alive that isn't going to notice a nicely dressed woman at a bar. Your look is what entices us guys to come up to you to initiate conversation.
Zezima Posted November 19, 2013 Posted November 19, 2013 Because guys dont like hitting on girls if shes talking with another girl. If you want dudes to approach you, you have to be alone and pretend you're not busy.
Keenly Posted November 19, 2013 Posted November 19, 2013 Why not just approach a guy and talk to him. There isn't some kind of magical barrier preventing girls from doing this .
filani Posted November 19, 2013 Posted November 19, 2013 Why not just approach a guy and talk to him. There isn't some kind of magical barrier preventing girls from doing this . @ Keenly Yes there is actually, it's called 'Fear of Rejection' but MOST girls would rather stick six inch nails in their eyes than admit that! If a guy exhibited that behavior, he would be labeled a Beta Male and any advise given to him would be along the lines of 'Hey, just GROW A PAIR and make a move!' But you wanna know the real kicker? Advise like 'Get Dolled up' & 'Show some skin' will get her attention alright.....the kind that girls keep saying they hate! From the kind of guys they say they can't stand! Ironic isn't it? 1
antonio1149 Posted November 19, 2013 Posted November 19, 2013 How do I get guys to notice me at bars? I usually go with a friend because I feel like going by myself is a bit weird and uncomfortable. You can be open, approachable, and have a great chance of meeting guys, or you can have a fun, chatty, social time with your friend, but you can't have both. I wish women would realize how very, very difficult they make it for guys when they huddle with each other at the bar or on the dance floor and give absolutely no sign that they're interested in anything but interacting with their friends. I go out dancing regularly and I almost never see women who are not doing this. Imagine how it is for us if we want to approach you: "Uh, hi there, I see that you're chatting happily with your friend, and probably are feeling far more comfortable doing that then you would be meeting a stranger like me, who you might not even like, but uh ... come here often?"
mammasita Posted November 19, 2013 Posted November 19, 2013 How about say Hi? I go after work by myself and sit at the bar in work clothes or I'll go later in the evening with a friend or two. Makes no difference. Either way, SAY HI. Strike up a conversation. Easy stuff - especially at a bar.
jphcbpa Posted November 19, 2013 Posted November 19, 2013 maybe meeting a guy in a bar is not the best idea?
Addison312 Posted November 19, 2013 Posted November 19, 2013 Tight jeans and a little cleavage. Heels. Some makeup. Smile. So easy!
StanMusial Posted November 19, 2013 Posted November 19, 2013 Wear a shirt whereby your boobies are hanging out. 100% sure you will be noticed by every guy in the bar.
PogoStick Posted November 19, 2013 Posted November 19, 2013 How to get a guy to notice me at a bar? Ask: Hi, What's up, How's it going? I like your shirt. You're cute. 1
Keenly Posted November 19, 2013 Posted November 19, 2013 How to get a guy to notice me at a bar? Ask: Hi, What's up, How's it going? I like your shirt. You're cute. This will get you any guy you want. 1
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