lovestack Posted November 19, 2013 Posted November 19, 2013 Recently I'm very confused by my relationship with one of my guy friend. I like him because he is very nice to me, but I am not sure if he thinks I'm a friend or something more. We often go to party together. I'm not very good at handling alcohol and often get very drunk. He used to carry me back to his place, give me water and let me sleep on his bed until one time we cuddled. After that he refuses to take me back to his place, but always drop by and check on me when I'm crashing at my friends'. One time he fended off some creeps for me in a bar and I dared him to act like a creep, he hugged me tightly and kissed me on my cheek and neck and then told me he felt like he was taking advantage of me and walked away. Most of the time when we hang out we are with a group of friends, but recently he started to ask me out to dinner. I went with him a couple times and he kept asking me about me. and he spent 30 minutes to me that he wasnt picking up random girls at bars (his friends were making fun of him for that earier that day.)I thought maybe he likes me too but it feels like he's avoiding physical contact with me, so I'm pretty confused!should i go for it or not?
d0nnivain Posted November 19, 2013 Posted November 19, 2013 What does "go for it" mean to you? Would you be risking the friendship if you are wrong? Do you interact when you are sober? What's that like? If mostly he's physical with you when you are drunk he may simply be protective. It's hard to tell through a message board; I'd need to see his face to determine how he looks at you. Do you have any friends who can tell you that?
Author lovestack Posted November 19, 2013 Author Posted November 19, 2013 What does "go for it" mean to you? Would you be risking the friendship if you are wrong? Do you interact when you are sober? What's that like? If mostly he's physical with you when you are drunk he may simply be protective. It's hard to tell through a message board; I'd need to see his face to determine how he looks at you. Do you have any friends who can tell you that? I would probably be risking our friendship if I am wrong. We do interact when I'm sober, and nothing physical is involved except giving me hug for a couple times. We have a common friend who I'd say is almost equally close to me and him won't stop making jokes of us being a couple and is trying to make us spend alone time together. It's hard to say what his face is like, sometimes he just keeps staring at me and i feel uncomfortable that I stare back lol.
fifipheebs Posted November 19, 2013 Posted November 19, 2013 I would probably be risking our friendship if I am wrong. We do interact when I'm sober, and nothing physical is involved except giving me hug for a couple times. We have a common friend who I'd say is almost equally close to me and him won't stop making jokes of us being a couple and is trying to make us spend alone time together. It's hard to say what his face is like, sometimes he just keeps staring at me and i feel uncomfortable that I stare back lol. sounds alot like interest to me
Author lovestack Posted November 19, 2013 Author Posted November 19, 2013 sounds alot like interest to me But from my experience so far and from what I've been told guys who are interested tend to engage physical contact. what do you think about that?
fifipheebs Posted November 19, 2013 Posted November 19, 2013 But from my experience so far and from what I've been told guys who are interested tend to engage physical contact. what do you think about that? perhaps your friend is trying to show you he is a true gentleman. fact that he doesnt want to take advantage of you. why would you want a guy who would? this guy sounds like hes trying to be respectful of you and show you he cares about YOU and not your body or any of that. Love isn't all about phsycial contact and being s**ual Sometimes a light brush of the hand or him sweeping hair off your face, little sweet gestures are the ones that show how they truly care. He is giving you phsyical contact when he picsk you up when you are drunk. personally i'd rather have a man who has loving gestures like your friend rather than a guy who wants you in the sack.
fifipheebs Posted November 19, 2013 Posted November 19, 2013 But from my experience so far and from what I've been told guys who are interested tend to engage physical contact. what do you think about that? why dont you try this experiement: next time you are out, lightly touch his arm when you are making a statement about something. "look at the beautiful colors on that tree, how they've changed" and touch his arm. If he doesn't shrug it away with repulse, he likes you.
Cabinet Posted November 19, 2013 Posted November 19, 2013 We often go to party together. I'm not very good at handling alcohol and often get very drunk. He used to carry me back to his place, give me water and let me sleep on his bed until one time we cuddled. After that he refuses to take me back to his place, but always drop by and check on me when I'm crashing at my friends'. Seems to me that your focus ought to be on not getting so drunk. He might like you a whole lot more if he didn't have to carry you home at the end of the night.......
Author lovestack Posted November 19, 2013 Author Posted November 19, 2013 Seems to me that your focus ought to be on not getting so drunk. He might like you a whole lot more if he didn't have to carry you home at the end of the night....... may be true! One time he gave me his jacket when I was drunk with his car keys in it... The next day he ended up taking bus to work
Author lovestack Posted November 20, 2013 Author Posted November 20, 2013 why dont you try this experiement: next time you are out, lightly touch his arm when you are making a statement about something. "look at the beautiful colors on that tree, how they've changed" and touch his arm. If he doesn't shrug it away with repulse, he likes you. One time he was teasing me so hard I didn't know what to do so I just put both my hands on his face and stare at him ( I know, ridiculous!) he didn't move an inch. Does this count?
fifipheebs Posted November 20, 2013 Posted November 20, 2013 One time he was teasing me so hard I didn't know what to do so I just put both my hands on his face and stare at him ( I know, ridiculous!) he didn't move an inch. Does this count? He likes you. Now go tell him.
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