blindhope Posted November 19, 2013 Posted November 19, 2013 I've been broken up with my ex for 10 months now. We've got a long story and it got messy to say the least after we broke up. Since that time I thought I'd moved on. I stayed away from social media temptation, avoided her at all costs. Felt good about time apart. But recently as cooler heads prevail, I realize that I'm still in live with her. I'm reminded of her at evey corner. I can't keep my mind off her. One problem ..shes the one who "needed a break" Started dating a girl whom I really like but the more I get to know her I can't see myself loving her. So now I dont want to hurt someone who I care about, buy know I have to and can't be with the one person I love the most and he only woman I've ever felt that I wanted to make sure she was happy and loved every second of everyday. One problem is to accomplish that means I need to leave her be... 1
d0nnivain Posted November 19, 2013 Posted November 19, 2013 In fairness to the new girl, let her down gently. You don't have to go into a whole thing but explain that you just weren't ready. As for your EX, try making a list of all the reasons you broke up & why it's better that you are apart. Basically list all the bad stuff. Read it over & over so you stop dwelling on the good things. 1
Pa76 Posted November 19, 2013 Posted November 19, 2013 I feel for the girl who you are with cause my ex of 10 months dumped me little over week ago cause his ex messed him up and feels he doesn't want a relationship or can fall in love (he almost proposed but his ex wanted a kid with him and he doesn't so she turned off feelings fast). So when you tell the girl it won't work out tell her why and be honest. Don't hide stuff. Also think about this ex with why you miss her and things you don't miss. Maybe you need to be single to think about things for a while.
Author blindhope Posted November 19, 2013 Author Posted November 19, 2013 My thoughts why we broke up is that I didn't show her how special she was and someone else did. I took her for granted and although I was never bad to her we both got complacent. Also I never proposed after way too long, I waited for the perfect time and perfect momemt and that let the perfect woman walk out. As for my current gf, theres just too many things that dont make us a good couple. We differ in to many ways. So even if I was ready it wouldn't be the best.I know I have to be honest with her but I do like her anf I know this will hurt her, cause we do have fun times together. Its just wrong thing, we would have made better friends.
reddragon588 Posted November 19, 2013 Posted November 19, 2013 Be honest with your current gf about how you feel. Tell her you still have feelings for your ex. Let her respond. Maybe she can help you through this. How wonderful would that be? This could serve as a chance to strengthen your current relationship instead of breaking it. Openness and honesty and communications can only improve relationships. If you are open and honest about this and it ends the relationship, then it wasn't meant to be. But it could also make what you have already even better. It's a win-win for you. 1
NoLeafClover Posted November 19, 2013 Posted November 19, 2013 I've been broken up with my ex for 10 months now. We've got a long story and it got messy to say the least after we broke up. Since that time I thought I'd moved on. I stayed away from social media temptation, avoided her at all costs. Felt good about time apart. But recently as cooler heads prevail, I realize that I'm still in live with her. I'm reminded of her at evey corner. I can't keep my mind off her. One problem ..shes the one who "needed a break" Started dating a girl whom I really like but the more I get to know her I can't see myself loving her. So now I dont want to hurt someone who I care about, buy know I have to and can't be with the one person I love the most and he only woman I've ever felt that I wanted to make sure she was happy and loved every second of everyday. One problem is to accomplish that means I need to leave her be... Give it some time. 10 months is not necessarily a long time to get over someone you truly loved. Everyone is different when it comes to moving on. You might of just had a bad day(s) and it made you think of her more than usual. I don't recommend to jump into a relationship right after a breakup but since you're already in it, try to make it work while you can. Just because you don't see yourself loving this girl currently, does not mean you can't after spending more time with her. Thing is, you're looking to love someone right away especially right after a breakup and it doesn't work like that. If the hottest/greatest girl on earth dropped down and started dating you, you'd still feel like you will never love her at this moment. Give it some time. Don't jump into "love: right away. Enjoy the good times with the new person you currently like. You're not ready to love but that doesn't mean you are not ready to date and start putting an effort into someone worth it. If what she's doing is truly a deal breaker for you, then be honest with her and break things off. If this is simply because your ex runs through your mind a lot, I would think that this is a normal thing but not worth breaking up with someone you see a potential with. Personally, I would spend as much time with this new person and make new memories and have fun. Life is too short to dwell on ex's who don't want to continue a relationship with you. 1
kp1111 Posted November 20, 2013 Posted November 20, 2013 It's not fair to the other girl that the guy she is seeing is in love with someone else. Just be honest and tell her how you feel. And about your ex, if she is the one you see a future with, then do what it takes to make it work. No relationship is perfect.
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