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Finally, I believe I found a woman who I can imagine being in a serious relationship with. We have been seeing each other for a month or two, and things have been getting more serious.

 

The only thing is, I haven't had a serious relationship in four years, and am feeling pretty anxious. I'm in that phase now where I'm not full blown 'in love' with her yet, but really like her, and can feel my emotions stirring up like wild at times.

 

What advice would you give to a man who wants to let his feelings develop, but is at the same time anxious to do so? Love is risky business, eh?

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Stop overthinking, be patient, and just do what feels right. Can't stress the overthinking enough, just be you. Overthinking things and stressing will only up the chances of self sabatoge. No need for anxiety, just enjoy yourself.

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I've been in the same situation as you as I was single for 5 years between girlfriends.

 

While it's normal to have these "crazy" emotions, don't let it show through this early in the relationship- it might freak her out, especially if she's the type to take it slow. Just let things naturally take their course, and express your feelings when it appears to be appropriate, however long it takes both of you to get there. Remember, a month or two isn't enough to know if she's long-term potential, so it's best not to imagine "happily ever after" at this point, although it's tough not to :)

 

Going back to my current relationship, I've been with her for 3 months (5 year single before this), and it was quite nerve-wrecking diving back in, especially when things started getting serious. But don't worry, it will all fall into place as the relationship advances.

 

Good luck!

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