Shepp Posted November 19, 2013 Posted November 19, 2013 Well I don't put on a dress and heels because that's ridiculous, but I wear normal daily clothes. I cant believe that you don't dress up to go to the supermarket! I'm in my best suit and everything and even then I feel a bit underdressed to venture to the bread isle! To be honest I do think it matters what a girls wearing wouldn't stop me talking to her - I always chat to people in public...I think it comes from growing up in a tiny village where you walk down to the butchers and everyone you meet is like "Alfie! how you doing! how's your dad - heard he was under the weather" Things that would stop me are people: - looking in a rush - listening to music - texting Things that would make me: - eye contact - smiling, but proper smiling, sometimes, girls you happen to look at them and they do that little polite half smile. I don't smile like that - its grin or nothing, and if a stranger gives me a proper smile I will always talk to them - even if its just about the weather (very British) Things that would make me approach someone in a date sense (if I was single obviously): - Someone who laughs easily....not like just walking along laughing to themselves because that would make me run for me life! But like if we already chatting or if shes with friends and shes laughing with them. - Effortlessly stunning, like she hasn't even tried. If she was too dolled up i'd figure she had something more important to do. - If they talked to me first...I was on the train once and this girl asked me if I wanted to play cards with her, she was confident, and that's attractive. Being in a group wouldn't stop me talking to someone in a casual way but id be less inclined to ask them out - I still might if they were Cheryl Cole.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted November 19, 2013 Posted November 19, 2013 OP, I need some help with this too! Gonna look out for some more useful tips that may pop up here. I find myself taking my time more than usual while out in public now, in hopes that it'll help. I used to rush quite a bit through the grocery store, always preoccupied with which ear of corn to get or something similarly asinine. Hasn't helped yet but I figure it can't hurt! Oh for the love of God! This is like dodging/chasing raindrops for the likes of you. You would be better served if just planting your (exceptionally attractive) self in one spot (and, at the very least, recognizing her as such). (The whole world) will find you - just keep believing...
Johnson1 Posted November 19, 2013 Posted November 19, 2013 I don't know; I get approached a fair amount and I never wear makeup and usually am wearing workout clothes or jeans- fashion is not my forte. I think I look unintimidating and that's why; if I were exceptionally attractive or had a different sort of look about me, I figure it would be less Yea, there is always the 'Diamond in the rough' thing if you have a cute enough face and figure. You wont be seen as high maintenance.
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filani Posted November 19, 2013 Posted November 19, 2013 ^ I think if a woman wants to be approachable, she needs a time machine. IMHO, our culture has shifted to a place where women, for the most part, have made it all but unacceptable to be approached in public. All men are creepy, and we're all interfering with your important daily activities. This !!! An earlier poster cited the risk of a Sexual Harassment Charge , that is a very real danger that men who approach face! Any man in this country with half a brain would rather not roll the dice on his career,reputation and self respect just for a pretty face! The cost benefit analysis just doesn't favor the guys.
Woggle Posted November 19, 2013 Posted November 19, 2013 This !!! An earlier poster cited the risk of a Sexual Harassment Charge , that is a very real danger that men who approach face! Any man in this country with half a brain would rather not roll the dice on his career,reputation and self respect just for a pretty face! The cost benefit analysis just doesn't favor the guys. I agree. Outside of work if you have a thick skin you can deal with all the harsh rejection but many men don't want to deal with the crap. This is the kind of atmosphere the gender war has created.
Shepp Posted November 19, 2013 Posted November 19, 2013 This !!! An earlier poster cited the risk of a Sexual Harassment Charge , that is a very real danger that men who approach face! Any man in this country with half a brain would rather not roll the dice on his career,reputation and self respect just for a pretty face! The cost benefit analysis just doesn't favor the guys. For real? Wheres that? Its not like that In England! Like sexual harassment is a thing and you hear of people rightly getting done for it and stories of people wrongly getting done for it. But I've never known anyone who has any first hand experience with a sexual harassment charge. You certainly wouldn't get one for going up to a girl - that's crazy!! You'd have to be really really crude (and even then I think most girls would just tell you were to go, not slap a harassment order on you), a stalker or like physically touch a girl up! That can't be the case if you went up to a girl in the supermarket or on the beach though - like how would she even know how to find you!
Lisa_Lisa Posted November 19, 2013 Posted November 19, 2013 Watch the movie, "Valley Girl" with Nicholas Cage. It's from the early 80's. Nick Cage is at the beach with his friend and there's this cute girl whose with a pack of her friends. They look at each other. The girl smiles and lets the smile linger. That's the way to let a man know you want him to approach you.
Imported Posted November 20, 2013 Posted November 20, 2013 (edited) For real? Only in the minds of some guys I guess, I have never experienced anything like that. The actual sexual harassment charges I have seen, one of them...the ****er deserved it. The other one, the girl was totally loony tunes and obviously so. I've dated a few girls at work, not a big deal. Of course I don't harass them. I don't try to make them think they have to do anything. I just ask them out. I think some guys are confused and just assume stuff. Edited November 20, 2013 by Imported
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