JohnnyLoverBoy Posted November 18, 2013 Posted November 18, 2013 Hello everyone! Me and my 2yr ex gf just broke up.. We are in long distance relationship.. If you want someone back is it a good idea to block them with everything and cut off all contacts? Facebook - blocked Skype - blocked Msn - blocked She contacted me using Viber App In Iphone the other day. "Hi! How are you? heard the bad weather in your hometown is your family ok?" I respond after 12hrs "I'm doing great and they are fine. thanks" she didn't respond. So yesterday I uninstalled viber app where we usually talk since we are together.. when she try to message again she's gonna see this (The User Has Uninstalled This Application You're Message Cannot Be Sent) only way she can contact now if she ever want is email. Is this a good Idea??
d0nnivain Posted November 18, 2013 Posted November 18, 2013 NC is NOT a tool to get someone back. You can't make them miss you into a reconciliation. NC is a healing tool for the dumpee. It gives the time & space to get over the other person's absence in your life without having to see them being happy & moving on. 3
Author JohnnyLoverBoy Posted November 18, 2013 Author Posted November 18, 2013 Yes I know that.. I was just asking if it's a good idea to do this so she can't send breadcrumbs anymore?? NC is NOT a tool to get someone back. You can't make them miss you into a reconciliation. NC is a healing tool for the dumpee. It gives the time & space to get over the other person's absence in your life without having to see them being happy & moving on.
2fargone Posted November 18, 2013 Posted November 18, 2013 Yes I know that.. I was just asking if it's a good idea to do this so she can't send breadcrumbs anymore?? I'm suspicious about your intend. But yes, email is good enough for whatever you might expect or might come....
deponie12 Posted November 18, 2013 Posted November 18, 2013 It's a GREAT idea. I am on day # 13-- If you want to heal and move on, it's the best thing for both of you. I blocked everything- the only way he can get in contact is my office phone at work, he hasn't tried. ( part of me is sad by that) but I caught him red handed cheating....... can't talk your way out of that one. Good luck, stay strong! 1
Author JohnnyLoverBoy Posted November 18, 2013 Author Posted November 18, 2013 (edited) I do want to try to reconcile later on. but for right now I'm moving forward.. I just don't want to ignore her messages next time so I think it would be better if I just uninstall it so she can't send me any breadcrumbs anymore. But at the same time she might think that I removed the only way she can contact me because I didn't want to talk to her anymore and I'm moving on.. I'm confuse feel like I'm burning the bridges Absolutely, if you want to eliminate the problem of them contacting you, by all means, block and delete. To what end is this for though? Are you going to try reconciliation later on, or are you moving forward? Edited November 18, 2013 by JohnnyLoverBoy
Chi townD Posted November 18, 2013 Posted November 18, 2013 I'm going to assume that she was the one that broke up with you. If this is the case, she's the one that made the choice to have you out of her life. Therefore, there's nothing wrong with blocking her from all social media. But, we do this to heal and move on. Hopefully, you're ready to do just that.
Author JohnnyLoverBoy Posted November 18, 2013 Author Posted November 18, 2013 Yes she did. but blocking her from preventing me to message me is this better than just ignoring her breadcrumbs? I'm going to assume that she was the one that broke up with you. If this is the case, she's the one that made the choice to have you out of her life. Therefore, there's nothing wrong with blocking her from all social media. But, we do this to heal and move on. Hopefully, you're ready to do just that.
Author JohnnyLoverBoy Posted November 18, 2013 Author Posted November 18, 2013 I really don't know to be honest.. Why do they make it so hard for us dumpees I hope she didn't contacted me after break up. Also I think if she ever want reconciliation she will contact me in email right? If all social media, text messages is blocked and she really want to talk to me she will do it email right? She's just not gonna give up because I Uninstalled my viber where we do talk or maybe she will think I uninstalled it because I don't want to talk to her anymore and I'm moving on? Ok, so you're not really moving on. So I think you'll probabky end up unblocking her at some point. Either decide that this is done and move forward with no hope of reconciliation, or unblock and wait around and see what she does next.
Author JohnnyLoverBoy Posted November 18, 2013 Author Posted November 18, 2013 I ask for break cause she started acting cold and distant, Told her I didn't want to do this but I think it would be better so our relationship will not get ruined.. after 3 weeks I ask if she wants to go on.. she said She doesn't want to go on anymore and wanted to be alone.. She told me I deserve a better girlfriend, She said It's me not you etc.. I know those are just excuses. Well then, there you go. Leave the email open and see what happens. Why did she dump you? LDR's are crap. Seriously. Find someone who lives near you.
acrosstheuniverse Posted November 18, 2013 Posted November 18, 2013 If she wants to get in touch with you, she will find a way. E-mail, asking one of your mutual friends to pass a message on, opening up a new facebook account to send a message. Don't sweat it. Just cut her out and focus on moving on. 1
Author JohnnyLoverBoy Posted November 18, 2013 Author Posted November 18, 2013 Thanks guys!! Is doing all this blocking seems to be Immature?? I've read so many articles/forums on the internet and some people seems to think it's Immature and childish..
BC1980 Posted November 19, 2013 Posted November 19, 2013 Thanks guys!! Is doing all this blocking seems to be Immature?? I've read so many articles/forums on the internet and some people seems to think it's Immature and childish.. It's not immature. Most people realize that you need a period of NC to heal and come to terms with the relationship ending. It's a proactive way to begin healing.
acrosstheuniverse Posted November 19, 2013 Posted November 19, 2013 Thanks guys!! Is doing all this blocking seems to be Immature?? I've read so many articles/forums on the internet and some people seems to think it's Immature and childish.. Um, no. There's this kinda sense from most people that when we break up with someone we need to suppress all the pain and paint a thin veneer of friendship over it all, as though it's the more mature and adult way of handling things. I disagree... if both parties can handle and want that, then that's great. But if you're hurting and need no contact to heal, it's actually more sensible and shows that you know how to protect yourself to do the blocking. I didn't block my ex because I was being childish and immature, I blocked him because getting over him was easier when I didn't have the temptation there to see what he was doing and expose me to more pain. 2
Crila16 Posted November 19, 2013 Posted November 19, 2013 When the hearts involved, there is no logic. There is not one single person on this site who can genuinely say that when they are dumped by a person they are in love with, they wouldn't take that person back in a heartbeat. I would, so would you...and all the people here. This is why most of them are here...they had their heart broken. As for NC...it is for the benefit of you healing, but you're not at that point yet where you're going to use it that way. Why? Because you're holding onto hope of getting this girl back. You're just going to need to get angry and go through all the stages of a break up like everyone else. NC will help you eventually...but right now, all you can think about is getting her back...and that's completely normal. You want to hurt her, because she hurt you. You want her to regret her decision. It's Ok to feel that way. Everyone who has ever been hurt by someone, wants them to regret their decision. Sometimes the person does regret breaking up with them, sometimes they don't. It depends on the situation. 1
headinthecloud Posted November 19, 2013 Posted November 19, 2013 I really don't know to be honest.. Why do they make it so hard for us dumpees I hope she didn't contacted me after break up. Also I think if she ever want reconciliation she will contact me in email right? If all social media, text messages is blocked and she really want to talk to me she will do it email right? She's just not gonna give up because I Uninstalled my viber where we do talk or maybe she will think I uninstalled it because I don't want to talk to her anymore and I'm moving on? Accepting that the other person does not want you in their life is the first step to moving on. If you truly want to heal then you have to let go of the hope of what could have been. 1
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