Over it!

[mixeypixey]

Godamn that was a hellish situation.. what the hell!

 

I'm pretty much over my ex.. not completely.. like I still don't dare talk to her or look at her facebook or whatever.. but seriously i've stopped giving a ****.. and it's weird looking back..

 

Anyways I thought to myself like screw this I don't wanna have anything to do with girls for a while.. that was just some total craziness whatever it is I went through with my ex..

 

But someone in my office's vicinity seems to have an interest and she seems pretty cool so I really didn't mind.. but I dunno now I'm finding it hard to even go up and talk to her.. where the hell did my balls go LOL

 

Maybe I was pretty traumatized by what happened with my ex.. so it kinda made me a bit sterile if u know what i mean.. but if I make her wait too long there goes my chance..

 

Maybe in the back of my head I'm thinking.. do I really wanna go through that bull**** again? But what if I end up happier this time..

 

I dunno why I'm writing this but I find it kind of therapeutic..

 

But yeah maybe some of you playas out there LOL have experience with this.. like you got out of a really really ****ty and traumatizing breakup and getting back into talking to new girls is bit hard.. like what was it like for you?

 

I mean it's only normal.. my friend said it took him a year before he could get out there again.. this was like immediately after.. it just seems like such a waste though.. I need my mojo back!!!!!

 

haha :S

 

peace out

Edited November 18, 2013 by mixeypixey

[maturityassets]

Within the first month of my break up I didn't give crap what girls thought of me so I would be a flirt and it worked. The reason is I didn't really want them I wanted my ex, even when being the act I wasn't really present. Then after a while of getting off that spell of my ex, I started caring once again what girls thought of me and it would paralyze me as a man. What I've concluded is just don't put pressure on yourself. Just talk and be witty with your flirting. With me nothing is taboo, you just talk. Talk and attempt to be humorous. If a girl is interested she will laugh at some of the most cringe worthy jokes ever. And you just go with it. It is ok to take yourself out the game for a little while though. 2-6 months is always nice to figure this out for yourself. When your desire overcomes your fear, then you are ready

[leafguy]

Its natural to feel the way you are feeling.

You are still not fully over things, but also realize you want to move on.

Break ups do crazy things to you, and one of the major things is it rattles your

confidence in a big way for a while after.

 

Part of it is because you feel like your self worth is shot, the other is because of fear of the pain you just went through, so you lack the cojones to do anything.

 

Just take your time, don't rush into anything. If you want to put yourself back out there, just be careful. You have to be fair to yourself first and foremost, but also consider the other person's feelings as well. You might spoil a chance with someone you find special just because you weren't fully ready to move on.

 

Only you know for sure, but just food for thought.

[r321148]

Yeah you're probably just not ready to date again just yet. Time will be different for different people.

Maybe change approach. You're putting too much pressure on yourself. What I did was go out and just look to meet people as friends. As it turned out a couple of girls became interested in me really soon after my breakup. I wasn't interested in them as I already had them friendzoned but was still nice for the ego. I felt a bit bad but I did make it quite clear that I wasn't looking to date.

Then I met a girl again recently who I've been hanging out with as a friend. She keeps dropping hints that she likes me more than a friend. I think this happens as I'm totally myself around them. I'm not pressurising myself to replace my ex...it's never in my head...right I need to date girls NOW!

Just chill out and be yourself!