Thefinaldrive Posted November 18, 2013 Posted November 18, 2013 So, I met this great girl. We hit it off quick and everything seemed to be going well. We have a lot of the same interests and are really compatible. I finally worked up the nerve to ask her out about a week and a half ago and she said "yes! I thought you'd never ask!" I was really excited and asked when a good day would be for her, she said she didn't know and would let me know. She never told me a day but she texts me everyday just to talk, and she even sends me messages early in the morning to tell me to have a good day at work or school. She told a few people that I asked her out and they said she seemed excited about it. Well, I decided to wait for her to let me know a day, I didnt want to seem too pushy, so I waited until a few days ago to ask her out again, she said yes and even told me what days she has off and that she would let me know what day works best for her. That was two days ago and she still hasn't mentioned the day. We talk everyday and she hasn't brought it up is she leading me on? She seemed so excited about going out and now she is doing this. Did she just say yes to just try and not hurt my feelings? I really like this girl ... I just don't understand. What do you guys think?
d0nnivain Posted November 18, 2013 Posted November 18, 2013 She may simply be ditzy. I'd throw another date/time/place out there to see her reaction. If she doesn't accept outright or give you a concrete alternative, I'd nicely point it out to her that she's sending mixed messages & you need clarification. You can't assume things at this point because you don't have enough information. 1
NJtoDC Posted November 18, 2013 Posted November 18, 2013 So, I met this great girl. We hit it off quick and everything seemed to be going well. We have a lot of the same interests and are really compatible. I finally worked up the nerve to ask her out about a week and a half ago and she said "yes! I thought you'd never ask!" I was really excited and asked when a good day would be for her, she said she didn't know and would let me know. She never told me a day but she texts me everyday just to talk, and she even sends me messages early in the morning to tell me to have a good day at work or school. She told a few people that I asked her out and they said she seemed excited about it. Well, I decided to wait for her to let me know a day, I didnt want to seem too pushy, so I waited until a few days ago to ask her out again, she said yes and even told me what days she has off and that she would let me know what day works best for her. That was two days ago and she still hasn't mentioned the day. We talk everyday and she hasn't brought it up is she leading me on? She seemed so excited about going out and now she is doing this. Did she just say yes to just try and not hurt my feelings? I really like this girl ... I just don't understand. What do you guys think? She seems interested from everything you said, but like the other poster suggested, perhaps she is ditzy. Some people are bad at making plans, procrastinate, get easily distracted-which I find frustrating at times. If you want to humor her a bit longer how about asking her to do something specific, with a set time and place, on one of those days she said she has off. "Hey Jane, I was thinking about our date. Would you be interested in going to a comedy show? Ok. How about Saturday? I thought I could take you out to dinner at 6 and we can go to the 8 o'clock show." If she doesn't let you pin her down after asking her on a specific date I would either let her go or tell her "Ok. Well, I'm interested in taking you out. If you want that too let me know when you are available." and leave it alone...and perhaps pull it back a little on the communication. Good luck! 1
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