Marks Posted November 18, 2013 Posted November 18, 2013 I'm starting to think that one of my major problems with dating right now is that I come off too cold or as a guy who's only good as a friend and not a lover, because I'm hesitant and awkward with physical displays of affection. i.e. kissing a girl, embracing her, touching her flirtatiously, etc. The issue is that I have a genuine hesitancy to do these things until I feel comfortable enough with a girl, and when I do, I genuinely feel awkward about it and feel like I'm doing it wrong. These things just don't come to me naturally, partially I think due to not really being exposed much to displays of affection when I was growing up. And at this point it's now been three years since I last kissed a girl and even longer since I had any further intimacy. Problem is that I think it's resulting in me not giving off the sexy vibe that would attract women, and causing me to lose out on girls who would otherwise be willing to date me. So I realize that this may be a ridiculous or impossible question to answer...but what do I do in order to get better at this stuff? I mean, it's not like I can "rent" a girl to practice with, right? Do I just have to hope that I somehow get better at it by going through more and more first and second dates? I just feel so awkward with the displays of affection, and it just seems to feed my hesitancy even more
d0nnivain Posted November 18, 2013 Posted November 18, 2013 Do you have any female friends or a sister? You can practice holding their hands. For the hand holding, as you are walking just reach down & grab hers . . . you two may fumble a bit until you get in a comfortable position. That is only natural . . . go with whatever way she positions your hands unless it's painful. For the hug, you can kind of reach out. . . she should lean into you. From there it's not too hard to pull your head back, look into her eyes then go for the kiss.
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