gsfak Posted November 18, 2013 Posted November 18, 2013 We've been together for 4 months. She cheated on me while drunk. She is 40 with 4 kids. Im 34 with no kids. She is divorced because her husband cheated on her.she's never cheated before I found out by going thru her phone. I live in NY and she lives in Miami. I see her once a month for about a week and everything is amazing we talk about a future together. I would move to miami eventually but I want to know if she is the type to cheat all the time . Her kids love me and I'm the first guy she's had meet her kids since her divorce 5 years ago. When I found out I drove away and told her its over. She begged me to come back and we worked things out. She has been everything in a girlfriend i can ask for since this has happened. I forgave her but can't trust her yet. My question is will she do it again or are we past this?
ConstantVoyager Posted November 18, 2013 Posted November 18, 2013 You guys are smack in the middle of the honeymoon stage and she cheated? Move on and find someone local. (LDR relationships have so many many disadvantages.)
Jmk21 Posted November 18, 2013 Posted November 18, 2013 She will do it again. You can either do one of the following A. Be unhappy and always thinking about what it's, over analyzing every action/ word she says B. jump ship and find poon closer to you. She has hella baggage and honestly has no room for any of that selfish stuff with 4 kids and a divorce when looking for a mate that doesn't have baggage. I'd personally tell her to pursue the guy she cheated with because apparently he had a higher value in her eyes than she has for you and drop her like a bad habit
Chi townD Posted November 18, 2013 Posted November 18, 2013 Sorry dude. I would just let this one go. She violated your trust and she had NO intention of telling you. You found out on your own. She would have continued the relationship as if nothing happened. How did you find out on her phone? Was she still in communication with the guy she cheated on you with? If that's the case, then she wasn't sorry it happened. She would have been so guilt ridden that she would want nothing to do with this guy. Pretend that he didn't even exist.
Zahara Posted November 18, 2013 Posted November 18, 2013 It's one thing to stray once and come clean and confess because you're remorseful and you realize you made a huge mistake. It's another thing to continually cheat behind someone's back. The cat was out of the bag only because you caught her. If you didn't she would have been happily cheating behind your back, with zero conscience. Very new relationship. Already cheating. Even if you took her back, you'd probably go crazy in NY wondering what she's doing everyday in MI now that you know she has the ability to cheat without batting an eyelid. Or you could uproot yourself and move for someone that you've only known for 4 months, only having face to face interaction for 4 weeks, the responsibility of raising 4 kids, changing your life to accommodate hers -- and be close enough to "monitor and manage" her because the trust is gone. It doesn't seem wise.
d0nnivain Posted November 18, 2013 Posted November 18, 2013 Neither one of you are kids. She was cheated on so she knows how it feels. I wouldn't risk it.
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