I keep attracting women in relationships!

[dchin1985]

Me and a male friend had a topic lately.

 

He told me: You seem to keep attracting the same kind of girls.

You wanna ask: What kind of girls.

Well I am talking about the kind of girl who flirts with you all day long and seem to be very intereted in you. Ask you out for drinks and go on overseas holiday with her. BAM they are actually in relationships. They didn't say NO, they basically say yes, but they are in relationship.

 

Not the first time, but I get this alot lately. I know to some of you this is not so much a bad thing, but to me it is. I am no longer looking for flings, I have been there done that and I slept with a girl, whose boyfriend found out and pointed a gun at me. Almost ran me over with a truck when my family were in the car Horrible experience!

 

These gals don't get me excited, the more they flirt and speak the more distanced i become. Some of these gals tell me that they want to get married, but what made them think I would consider her when she is currently in a relationship and keep flirting with another men.

 

 

I guess I really want to know:

• What are these girls thinking?
  
• At what stage of life or relationship they are in?
  
• And how do I attract the right single girl?
  
• Will these girl at all leave their boyfriend or they just look at me like a piece of meat they must conquer?
  
• And what sort of image did i project to them?
  

Didn't write this to show off, I am genuinely concerned, because this also applies to me when i was in a relationship.

Edited November 18, 2013 by dchin1985

[secret admirer]

Ok seriously I'm going through the same deal. I'm having a particular problem now and it's just annoying. I blame bad luck. Anyways to answer your main questions. I don't know why you are attracting those girls. Really don't. What stage of relationship? I got anywhere from 6 months to 2 years. Ask her. How to attract the right single girls? If you figure it out, tell me. Will they ever leave their boyfriend. My ex left for a jerk. So yes. Yes they would. Lastly how did they see you? I don't know. Did you seem confident? Shy? Awesome? I don't know you, but usually they see your personality.

[theothersully]

Had the same problem lately. In the past few weeks, I had 3 different girls hit on me very, very hard - with their boyfriend or date right there!!!!!

 

I'm thinking it's just how women are these days, so don't get too emotionally invested... i know, bad/misguided/bitter, but I see this all the time now.