Emilieya Posted November 18, 2013 Posted November 18, 2013 Is it possible for a guy to still love his ex but not want to be with her anymore because of trust issues and/or the past? Also if he tells you that you'll find a better guy that won't disrespect you, does that mean he doesn't love you anymore? If you still sleep with him a few times after the break up and he asks you if you slept with another guy or if you're going to and he seems concerned and/or worried about it, does it mean he still has feelings?
freebird31 Posted November 18, 2013 Posted November 18, 2013 (edited) Im not a guy. But i think that anyone who is In Love with another person, is willing to commit and do anything to work through these issues. If they gave up the relationship then it is a no, they most likely were not in love with you. But that could also mean they were not ready to deal with the serious issues you have to work through to have a successful relationship and were overall, not ready to commit to the relationship. I believe that Love, real love, (not the word "love" that every one just throws around) is the end factor of dealing with these issues. I believe the only way a person could be in love with you is if you were with the person for long-term (I am talking like years) you see eachothers flaws, and still love them. Its not the same type of feeling you once felt in the beginning but a more mature love. a real love. Other than that NO, a person, in my opinion does not love you if they broke things off with you for that reason. But it doesnt mean that they could not love you in the future. But thats most likely a slim chance that will ever work if they dont want it to work. Edited November 18, 2013 by freebird31 3
Author Emilieya Posted November 18, 2013 Author Posted November 18, 2013 Im not a guy. But i think that anyone who is In Love with another person, is willing to commit and do anything to work through these issues. If they gave up the relationship then it is a no, they most likely were not in love with you. But that could also mean they were not ready to deal with the serious issues you have to work through to have a successful relationship and were overall, not ready to commit to the relationship. I believe that Love, real love, (not the word "love" that every one just throws around) is the end factor of dealing with these issues. I believe the only way a person could be in love with you is if you were with the person for long-term (I am talking like years) you see eachothers flaws, and still love them. Its not the same type of feeling you once felt in the beginning but a more mature love. a real love. Other than that NO, a person, in my opinion does not love you if they broke things off with you. But it doesnt mean that they could not love you in the future. But thats most likely a slim chance that will ever work if they dont want it to work. I understand what you mean that "if they really loved you they would of never broke things off with you" but it's not always like this. For example we were off and on for a while...but when he first broke up with me it was because of rumors but when he found out they weren't true he took me back and he still loved me the whole time. Even if he didn't show it and I wasn't sure if he did or not, he told me he loved me one day and I was really surprised but he said it and I know that he meant it. Also I did break things up with him once because of messages that I saw but I still loved him with all of my heart. Even when we weren't together anymore I know that he still loved me for a while but now it's been about 1 year so I'm not sure if he still loves me but we did sleep together a few times and he asked me if I slept with another guy and I didn't but if I did and I said it I feel like it would of bothered him. Also in the past when I told him that I loved him and he refused to try to be together again he kept saying "I don't want to hurt you anymore" but never once did he said "I don't love you or have feelings for you anymore" but if he didn't love me wouldn't he have just told me straight out when I kept bothering him? Also way back when we were off and on several times, there was one point where I really wanted to be with him and he knew it but he kept telling me he didn't want to be serious because he felt like he couldn't and he didn't want to hurt me or anything but at the same time he still wanted to talk to me and have s*x if I wanted, but just didn't want commitment. And then 1 month or less after that he decided that he wanted to be with me and he did tell me that he loved me which means that he loved me all a long, even when he was telling me he didn't want to be serious.... I'm just kind of confused and curious about how he feels...
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted November 18, 2013 Posted November 18, 2013 Is it possible for a guy to still love his ex but not want to be with her anymore because of trust issues and/or the past? Probably, but usually no. Also if he tells you that you'll find a better guy that won't disrespect you, does that mean he doesn't love you anymore? More than likely, yes. Almost 100% If you still sleep with him a few times after the break up and he asks you if you slept with another guy or if you're going to and he seems concerned and/or worried about it, does it mean he still has feelings? No, it just means he is a douche. That should clear all that up.
almond Posted November 18, 2013 Posted November 18, 2013 I'm just kind of confused and curious about how he feels... He might like you and care for you enough to have sex with you and talk to you occasionally, but not enough to be in a relationship with you. He is not in love with you. I think you have to deal with this fact, and move on. It has been a year, and you are still hung up. NC is the way to go here. Also, he broke up with you because of a rumor he heard? And you broke up with him because of texts you found on his phone? Find a healthy relationship. He is not the one for you.
freebird31 Posted November 18, 2013 Posted November 18, 2013 Again, people throw around the word "love" all the time, often times not even knowing the real meaning behind it. Thats not love. Trust me, you will know what love is when you see it. It may be attachment, a fondess, infatuation. but no, not love. Like I said love is something that grows over time. That doesnt mean that he he may not have feelings for you or doesnt like you, but no, there is no way that someone who is in love with someone else would let you go. You need to move on. Dont stray along side someone who isnt ready to be serious with you. You want to be serious. he doesnt. Unless you want to be unhappy, just try to move on.
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