beautifulxtragedyx5 Posted November 18, 2013 Posted November 18, 2013 I broke up with my ex (of three years) about 5 months ago, but we decided to stay friends as we were very close. I have moved on and now have another boyfriend (whom my ex is not aware of), I feel no obligation to tell my ex about my love life right now. He is still madly in love with me, so I also do not want to hurt him further. 2 days ago, however, he decided to end our friendship because he couldn't tolerate seeing me with other guys. I let him go, even though I was grieving the loss of such a close friend. 2 days later though he contacts me, saying he can't do it, and would rather be my friend and suffer than completely let me go. I agreed once again, and I don't want to see him upset. My current boyfriend (of 4 months) is aware of the fact that I talk to my ex, and has never objected it, as long as the relationship is completely platonic. However.. I forsee a huge mess coming up.. How do I handle this situation?
mammasita Posted November 18, 2013 Posted November 18, 2013 Stop being selfish, Do your ex a favor and let him go.
acrosstheuniverse Posted November 18, 2013 Posted November 18, 2013 My current boyfriend (of 4 months) is aware of the fact that I talk to my ex, and has never objected it, as long as the relationship is completely platonic. However.. I forsee a huge mess coming up.. How do I handle this situation? It's not completely platonic at all if your ex is still into you and in love with you. If you feel a need to hide your current relationship from your ex than the friendship is most certainly not platonic. Be honest with the ex, if your new relationship is going to last any period of time at all he'll find it at some stage anyway, and to lie to your ex and deny your relationship to somebody (ANYBODY) is disrespectful to your new boyfriend. 1
carhill Posted November 18, 2013 Posted November 18, 2013 How do I handle this situation? I had a long answer but the timeline indicates to me that no contact would be beneficial, mainly to balance out the path to disinterest. At the point when your ex can interact with your current BF and feel nothing but positive feelings for your new relationship, then you can explore being friends in the true meaning of the word.
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