Holiday break-up

[Parkour]

Hi there,

 

New to this site so hi everyone! Some good advice flying round here!

 

Guess i'm writing to get this off my chest and get some opinions/advice.

So after having met my gf in December online, having had a really good relationship for 9 months (i asked her out in February officially after our dating went really well.) We went on holiday to a remote island in Croatia for 7 days at the end of September. After day 2, i noticed she started to moan at me for little things like wearing odd socks, eating breakfast with my mouth open (i'm not a bad eater). And trivial things like that really. She just seemed to go off me almost like a flick of a button). We saw each other twice a week, every week up until holiday) so in hindsight it was too much too soon but i was really looking forward to spending a week with her. Anyway we got to our last night, we had a good meal but had a very silly argument at the end of our last night on holiday. Unfortunately with the drink and feeling a bit on edge with the tension on holiday i over-reacted to something she said. Something about my opinion on fake eyelashes and she responded with "We don't care what you think" to which i took personally due to us not getting on on holiday and felt she was trying to push me. Anyway i told her we were going back to the apartment, she was not happy, i said i needed 20minutes to go and chill out and watch the end of one of the football games then i'll be back. Anyway i got back and i apologised and said i felt she had been having a pop at me all week and i wanted us to talk about things and thought we could sort it out. Anyway she gave me lot's of excuses but finally said "Maybe you love me more than i love you". To which i replied with "So is that it then" and she didn't respond. And that was it. We did however keep talking and were friendly with eachother on our journey home next morning after both of us had a good cry. She'd rest her head on my shoulder on the plane etc.

 

Anyway i realised i couldn't let a holiday get in the way of a great relationship. Couldn't let it end like that and i really did love her. So i made a little speech at the airport before she got on the bus to go home. She got home and text me later that evening saying she's thought about it and it was worth fighting for. Next day she changed her mind so i asked her to give it some time in case it's a rash decision and give it a week away from each other to see what we both want. We met up about 4-5days later talked about things over a couple of drinks in a bar (never been so anxious). She claimed we should have seen more of each other months ago (there were a couple of signs in the few weeks building up to holiday but i didn't want to smother her because we'd been together for 7days on holiday anyway). And of course the 'maybe you love me more than i love you' line.

 

So my questions to you guys. It's my birthday next week and her's in a few weeks. I think i'd like to send her a simple birthday card, keep my cards close to my chest and maybe she'll look back and realise how good we had it. Same time i'm not naive and maybe she did just fall out of love with me in the last few weeks. But it just feels like the holiday ruined things and inflated any doubts she did have. I am slowly moving on but she means the world to me still, we had a lot in common and it's such a shame. =( I do want her back, i'd like to think we could date again and go from there. But i won't put all my egg's in one basket. Wondering what you guys think especially about a holiday break up and if anyone's had a similar experience?

 

(I'm 25 she's 26)

 

thanks,

[Kansas87]

My advice? Don't do it. You're holding onto hope for her to change her mind and realize she wants you, but I promise that sending a card won't do it. The only way to do it is to really let her get to miss you and experience life without you- and then IF (and it's a big, unlikely IF) she changes her mind she will try to come back. If you stay in her life, even just by doing "nice" things like this, then she hasn't really lost anything.

 

I would advise you, from the sound of things, to try to move on.