snilljente Posted December 26, 2004 Posted December 26, 2004 Some of you already have read on another post that I was considering breast implants....I got them this past Monday....HATE them.....they are enormous and I feel like such a fraud...also hate the swishing feeling when I bend down to pick up something...I am seriously considering calling my doctor on Monday and asking him to remove them....he will likely think I am crazy and I am so embarassed, but I have been really down since I got them...I don't feel like myself....I made a big mistake....Anyone else out there been through this? HELP?! I feel like such a fool.
Mr Spock Posted December 26, 2004 Posted December 26, 2004 Have they settled or healed yet? A week isn't long enough for you to heal from surgery..... The swelling probably hasn't gone down yet-don't forget, when they stuff them in your chest they're up a LOT higher than they will be once they settle, which takes THREE months. So don't panic.
9Lives Posted December 26, 2004 Posted December 26, 2004 you are the first person i ever heard say they did not like them. Give it some time to see how it goes. Try not to focus on them for a while and give it a chance to become a part of you...Congrats...I want some.
sam2234 Posted December 26, 2004 Posted December 26, 2004 Yes, I hated mine too. It is a very comon feeling. In fact, I was quite depressed for the first month. I didn't start to like them until 3 months post, then after 6 months, I love them!. So don't rush into anything yet. Give it at least 6 months before you decide on a redo.
Author snilljente Posted December 26, 2004 Author Posted December 26, 2004 Sam what changed after 6 months that made you go from hating them to loving them? Mine seem SO huge...so unnatural..How much swelling did you guys have in the beginning...it would be great if alot of the hugeness was just swelling......Yikes...I wasn't expecting to feel this way....
reasontosigh Posted December 26, 2004 Posted December 26, 2004 Even the simplest of surgeries (if one can call any kind of surgery simple!) takes more than one week to heal. Try not to stress yourself out, as that will slow the process.
Naive Posted December 26, 2004 Posted December 26, 2004 Like some of the other posters have told you, it takes time for your breast to heal. They are probably going to be swollen for a while. If you still do not like them after 3-6 months then you should consider taking them out. Maybe you should talk to your surgeon and asking him\her how long it will take for you to see what size they are actually going to be.
Author snilljente Posted December 26, 2004 Author Posted December 26, 2004 OK, I am feeling somewhat better about now panicking...I guess I am just worried that if I wait six months and still want to take them out, my breast will be so stretched out that they will look horrible if I do decide to take the implants out. Has anyone had theirs removed and how did their skin react...Also, for those of you that have gotten them, how big of implants (ccs) did you get? Thanks for all of your input and support.
RowanRavyn Posted December 26, 2004 Posted December 26, 2004 Give yourself some time to adjust. Several things are going on: 1. Swelling 2. You might have mild post-op depression. Your body was just invaded and forced into a deep sleep. Its gonna take a little while for your body and mind to readjust. If you are on any type of pain med this could exacerbate the feeling of disappointment. 3. Are you wearing enough support right now while your body heals? A girl can always use a little support when things are sore. So breathe, follow instructions to the T. Give yourself time to adjust. A friend of mine got implants, and the ones she has can have the size changed through a small needle port. They simply inject/draw out the saline until things feel right.
Author snilljente Posted December 26, 2004 Author Posted December 26, 2004 THank you all.....I am going to try and be patient and I will talk to my doctor more Thursay when I go back to get the stitches out. It is a weird feeling for your body to be in someone else's "control" and to feel like things may not turn out as you had expected. I am experiencing alot of guilt too because I had nice breasts to begin with, just wanted one cup size bigger and symmetry...maybe I was too selfish and now it has backfired on me...maybe I should have just been happy with what I had.....if so, if will be a hard lesson learned.
Mr Spock Posted December 26, 2004 Posted December 26, 2004 They seem HUGE because they're swollen and sitting VERY high on your chest. They will soften and drop eventually..... Just be patient.
Merin Posted December 27, 2004 Posted December 27, 2004 Originally posted by Mr Spock They seem HUGE because they're swollen and sitting VERY high on your chest. They will soften and drop eventually..... Just be patient. Good Advice:) The swelling will go down.. they will drop and soften. Give it some time sweetie;)
Author snilljente Posted December 27, 2004 Author Posted December 27, 2004 THanks guys...I am feeling a little less panicky today.....I had to remind myself that they are boobs and this is not the end of the world if months from now I want them out...people have bigger problems than that, he he...I appreciate all of your support...My love life still sucks though for those of you that heard that whole ridiculous story this summer.... ....still waiting to meet a really nice guy who wants to have a family, etc...I need to be less of a hermit, that might help...just haven't felt like going out much....I'll keep you posted about the boobs...I did go to another web site and it was interesting to see the time lapse photos and HOW MUCH the look of people's implants changed over the course of a few months...I didn't realize it would be that way, figure I would just come out of surgery looking like I was going to look permanently...naive, but true...
Mr Spock Posted December 27, 2004 Posted December 27, 2004 You wouldn't be the first to go in for somewhat major surgery and not do any reasearch. I'm just hoping (and I am sure) that you have a fantastic surgeon. Relax, and STOP looking at your boobs. I forbid you to look at your boobs for the next 2 months. FORBID. Pretend they're not there. You get to look at them again later, when you're not feeling so low. General anesthetic (if you had it) always played HUGE head games with me-it would make me feel awful for a very long time. NO MORE LOOKING AT YOUR BOOBS UNTIL YOU"VE HEALED.
Author snilljente Posted December 27, 2004 Author Posted December 27, 2004 It's not that I didn't do research...I did about the procedure, risks, etc....I guess I just didn't do enough research about the immediate look of boobs after surgery and the healing process...the doctor has operated on me before (nose was fractured) and did a good job....I have faith in him, I just don't want to look like Dolly Parton, he he....Ok, I am not going to look at them for 2 months...I'll let you know in 2 months if they are still enormous... Thanks!
RowanRavyn Posted December 27, 2004 Posted December 27, 2004 Listen to Spock. Its good advise. Anesthesia can really mess with your head, perseption, and can bring on mild depression.
Author snilljente Posted January 6, 2005 Author Posted January 6, 2005 Ok....I have now gone from hating my boobs to just disliking them....does anyone who has had implants know if you ever stop feeling that there is something foreign in your boobs....i.e. like you have a bad insole stuck in your shoe that just doesn't fit right and keeps bothering you...I didn't realize that you would be able to "feel" the implants so much...do you stop feeling that they are there all of the time and do they just eventually start feeling like your "own" boobs....Geez, I really wish I hadn't done this....
zara Posted January 6, 2005 Posted January 6, 2005 Don't worry, that foreign feeling will fade and eventually disappear. This is a long slow process - lots of people think that it's just a matter of having the operation and that's it, immediate results, and many women have then removed after a couple of mothns or replaced, when really that is far too soon to see any real result. it really does take time, they feel foreign because the thousands of tiny nerves and vessels around the implants were severed and they take a good six months or so to fully heal - i remember it feeling soooo strange when i lay on my front that it was about a year before i did so comfortably! After 6 - 12 months they will feel more like a part of you and you won't really notice them.
TotallyUsed Posted January 6, 2005 Posted January 6, 2005 I just wonder - what size did you go from and to, and what type of implants do you have. Sorry if I missed that when I skim read. I had silicone, one cup size bigger (to 36C) after my third and last child, the skin of my boobs were still there, but it needed filling up again!!! I'm wondering if I didn't feel so worried about having these "huge" new boobs because I'd been through 3 pregnancies and my boobs where every which size!!! I will say that since I had them (5 years now) I have gained weight (now 36D) and this seemed to help them feel more natural. Although I've never been able to feel them myself and anyone who has been interested in whether or not they feel real and has had a grope (sounds awful - I'm just mad thats all!) said they would never have known. I'm sure things will settle down...can you sleep on your stomach yet? I remember that was my "I've healed" benchmark!
Author snilljente Posted January 6, 2005 Author Posted January 6, 2005 I was a 32/34 C, but this often dependend on weight, what type of birth control pill, etc...and they had just really started to feel more and more empty and in need of plumping...(no kids, but I am 36), so I had really gotten smaller like a full B cup....I wanted one cup bigger and some evening out because I was a little bigger on the right side...I got McGhanon style 68, think they say round textured.....but I can just feel them so much in there....like something weird got stuck in my body (which it did)..it's only been 2 1/2 weeks, but they are so uncomfortable, I can't imagine wanting them for long....they kept me awake last night....some pain, but mostly just uncomfortable....they were about 300 cc each.....No definitely can't sleep on my stomach...sleeping on the side is still uncomfortable.
rtobiejr Posted January 6, 2005 Posted January 6, 2005 Unless you look like Lolo Ferrari, I wouldn't concern myself too much with them. Sounds like your swelling just needs to go down and you need to heal a bit.
Author snilljente Posted January 6, 2005 Author Posted January 6, 2005 Zara, I just noticed your response...thanks, I am glad that the foreign feeling will go away, that's all that's really bugging me at this point...I am ok with the size now that most of the swelling will go down..if they start to feel like more of me and I am not feeling something in there all the time, I will be happier..thanks guys...they are only boobs, I know this is not earth shattering stuff
t bird Posted January 6, 2005 Posted January 6, 2005 Hey, I went through the same thing and I wanted them out immediately. Then i went out and bought some new things that looked great on my new bod and I started to really like them. It's almost like you have to mourn your old body to welcome the new. I know what you're going through. Just hang in there. peace, jane
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