Pa76 Posted November 17, 2013 Posted November 17, 2013 I was dumped last week after 10 month relationship. In beginning he said he doesn't give up yet he did. So the following weekend before the night I was stomped on he was in Florida visiting his Dad. Last time he visited him he was sending cute texts to me but this time nothing. I picked him up from airport and I had weird feeling. He came over two or three days later for dinner and stayed over (no sex). He seemed fine so I thought I was thinking too much. In morning he kissed me on my cheek when I smiled at him as I ate my cereal and he smiled at me. Since that day texts were different. Actually he had been taking longer to text me back which he didn't do a month before. Got that gut feeling to cancel Saturday but I don't cancel plans. When he got to my place he seemed off. I asked if he was looking forward to night and he said yes but not in an enthusiastic way. Drive there was weird and then dinner weird again. I barely said a word so he knew I wasn't happy. Anyways I was crying on ride home cause feeling wasn't good. Get back asks me if I need to talk. I asked what's going on. He said he doesn't feel love for me. Ouch! He asked if I fell in love with him and I said yes. He said I treat him better than all his exes and he wishes he could fall in love with me. He said for past two weeks he has thought about it. Gee thanks for telling me now before my birthday and holidays. Yes there are things about him I wasn't thrilled with but I care or cared about him so much I chose to look past. All in all I was there for him more then he was there for me. Wonderful for months then fizzled. Still sent good night with the kiss face on text night before. Now I am living in new state with no friends (mine live long distance away). I am surrounded by memories and his friends are all around. Even had plans for Thanksgiving (his sister invited me). I feel like my world is crushed. He did say his ex (3 yr relationship he wanted to propose to her but due to him not wanting kids she dumped him) has him messed up. She turned off her feelings one day then dumped so did he get scared and not want to fall n love in case happened again? He now doesn't want marriage plus his dad talks bad about marriage. How does someone say you treat me better than exes but doesn't feel love?? He said his anxiety from work has gotten bad and said he has had it for a long time but worse now. He said he is gong to therapist soon. I honestly want him to contact me saying he made a mistake. He told me after he dumped me he stays friends with exes. I told him well I don't think I ca do that. Plus I keep past in past PLUS you tore out my heart. How does one move on when they feel so lonely, have unanswered questions and stomped on???
Kansas87 Posted November 18, 2013 Posted November 18, 2013 You will move on. It will take time. I know how you feel- my ex had a crazy ex who totally screwed him up too. And in a lot of ways I paid the price because he projected stuff onto me. But I put up with it and dealt with it. I hope that now that we've split and he was in control it will help him grow, but it really isnt my problem anymore. You feel stomped on and hurt and that's normal. I know, believe me.
devilish innocent Posted November 18, 2013 Posted November 18, 2013 I'm sorry. It really seems like it just wasn't meant to be. His heart simply wasn't into it. I'm sure there are plenty of guys who would have felt differently about you. You'll find something in the future which will be better than what he was able to offer. Going no contact is wise. You'll get over him faster that way. Just take things one day at a time. Focus on taking care of your physical and mental health. Things will get better in time.
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