strong and overwhelming connection

[flowerdew]

The connection is strong, it occurs randomly, you both lock eyes, and from that moment on you find yourself captivated by them and you cannot stop thinking about them. It's as if you are metal being pulled by a magnet. It's not sexual or physical attraction, although you do find them physically attractive, but the minute you get to know them, you find yourself really attracted to who they are as a person. Their personality is very lovely and their presence is comforting and you both get a long extremely well, but fail to tell each other how you truly feel. Words don't suffice, but body language and eye contact says it all. Unspoken attraction, maybe? It almost feels supernatural. You encounter coincidences and synchronicities out of your control that seem to draw you together.

 

Has anyone experienced this before? It's a beautiful situation, I'll tell, but very confusing if you are too shy and the person you are drawn to is too shy to really admit how they feel about you.

 

Initially when I started my job, I locked eyes with my trainer and from that moment on, what I wrote above transpired. It was such a very strong connection, which all happened four years ago, but I still have feelings for him and whenever we encounter each other it's like we can read the vibe and both sense each other being captivated by one another. When we worked together we got a long very well, he was always so kind and patient and helpful and although he has a good rapport with people and most people like him, he always seemed to treat me differently and go above and beyond for me and I would do the same for him. He'd share stories with me that he claimed didn't tell anyone else. He'd share books with me from his personal library. To make a long story short, we just clicked the moment we met. However, I moved to a different department and didn't speak to him verbally for 2 years, but we would run into each other occasionally and sparks would go off.

 

He's different now. A lot more reserved but expresses how he feels through eye contact and body language but it confuses me. Not sure what to think about this situation but it's been four years and I don't understand why I am so drawn to him. Some days he randomly pops up in my mind and I can't stop thinking about him or he'll pop up in my dreams. It would be dreams of me and him hugging, bonding, conversing, and just having a good time ...just the two of us. And on those days where I have dreams about him I normally always run into him.

 

The last time we worked together on a project, he would come extremely close to me, shoulder to shoulder, and wouldn't say a word. Or, we would be working then randomly turn towards each other and lock eyes then shift our gazes. Wherever I was in the room, he appeared. And wherever he was, I would appear. It continued on, but nothing was said.

 

I can't get him off my mind. I think about him all the time.

[flowerdew]

Also I have written him notes an slid them into his locker at work. the notes are normally a list of good books i recommend, since i know he loves to read. he actually showed me a note i wrote him a year ago. i couldn't believe he kept it that long.

 

One more thing, yesterday I requested him on facebook, then felt stupid afterwards and canceled my request. well, the next day, i log on, and to my surprise, he sent me a request!

 

Not sure what to do at this point. I don't want to seem desperate but I really have strong feelngs for him. I want to hug him so badly.

[jba10582]

the positivity that you exude is such a refreshing thing to read on here. The lessons you take from your experience will help you grow more as person no matter the outcome.

[Sparky9]

I had the same thing happen with a woman I was not attached to ...but I was taken. Met her through other friends. The connection was immediate , and somewhat obvious to others. We kept our attraction to each other to just a friendship, as she was married, and I had a serious gf. Neither of us were happy in out relationships, and would lean on each other for consolidation and comfort.

 

After a while we became physical...but neither of us wanted to leave our families... Each with children. We kept this going for over a year until we decided that out relationship was going nowhere...we were both leading double lives...and ended it.

 

My gf ended up finding out about it...and I stand alone now.

 

Was it worth it??..... I have never had a connection like that with anyone before...and I do miss it. However, I miss my family much more...