Is it an affair?

[Snipercatt]

I didn't say her wrongdoings, but there is clearly a flaw in their relationship. It wasn't like I went to him for any of this. He was my friend who decided to show up on my doorstep and tell me he had feelings for me when I felt like hell and from there something else happened

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Just because he went looking for something extra doesn't necessarily speak to a flaw in their relationship, but perhaps a flaw in him. HE decided to show up, HE decided to tell you he had feeling for you, when you felt like hell.

 

By the way, doesn't that sort of strike you as him being an opportunist? He struck while you were vulnerable?

[Walker69]

Simple thing - Some men love and live with her woman happily forever, some men love more than one woman at the same time. The second one is not socially accepted - I don't know right or wrong. Your OM is second type of person.

 

You have definitely an affair with him.

[Mcle]

That is exactly what he said to me it was. Convenience. She gets a nice house, a nice car, nice clothes, all her friends think that she has a lovely little family and he gets to see his daughter.

 

Classic cheater line. Look it up. "we just have a marriage of convenience" is a top 10 on the list. That line combined with him preying on your vulnerability = likely serial cheater. I hope you don't expect him to leave because if e is exposed this type will throw you under the bus in 2 seconds. But you know that.