irc333 Posted November 17, 2013 Posted November 17, 2013 The reason I put this in the dating section, is because I'm referring to the initial stages of dating, this situation could also apply to relationships, but with dating you're more so nipping it in the bud. What I'm addressing is if something that's going on in your dating situation that you don't approve of, most people tend to keep hush-hush about it before communicating that issue with the person. I see a lot of posts here where someone asks about something that really irks them about their sig. other's behavior (i.e. - going on a trip without them, shutting off emotionally, etc). The posts are usually awaiting answers that have to do with the situation, but before one should consider even POSTING on her about it, address it with your significant other first. Some are afraid to address their problem with their sig. other's behavior, because they are afraid they might loose them because they other party will get upset, and walk out on it. Just an FYI, BE PREPARED for that to happen! It can go one of two ways, they'll get ticked off at you and end the relationship immediately or they might wake up and it was probably the BEST Thing for your relationship and a GOOD thing that you did communicate your problem with them. Agree, disagree?
Philosoraptor Posted November 18, 2013 Posted November 18, 2013 I'm one to be open and honest with things. I have no problem addressing issues early as it gives you the opportunity to learn more about this person and determine faster if you are a compatible match or not. Of course, you bring it up in a non-confrontational way if possible. But it's always better to address things than ignore them and get too invested in someone you already see issues with. 1
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