Hawkings42 Posted November 17, 2013 Posted November 17, 2013 I'm recently out of a long term relationship(4 years) and moving to Jersey City in January. Currently, I'm working in Manhattan and see little reason to have a car because I'm mostly in the city and everything I need is easily commutable in Jersey City. However, I've been reading that women won't even think about dating a guy(I'm 28) without a car. I did have a car, but I sold it before attending law school. I feel silly spending 10-15k to buy a car just to date...is that the cost to play to ball ladies?
Author Hawkings42 Posted November 17, 2013 Author Posted November 17, 2013 BigLaw in Manhattan? Not Biglaw.
carhill Posted November 17, 2013 Posted November 17, 2013 If I lived in Jersey City proper, and was commuting across the Hudson to Manhattan for work, or working in the city, no way would I own a car. I'd walk, bike or use mass transit for dates and rent a car or take the train/plane for long-distance trips. If you're going to date city women, they know the drill and most won't have cars themselves. Save the money on the car, the maintenance, the insurance and the parking and get a two level flat, rent the bottom one out, and grow your own path. 1
d0nnivain Posted November 17, 2013 Posted November 17, 2013 Women not wanting to date a man who doesn't have a car applies to rural places where there is no easy way to get around. In NYC & the surrounding area where you are it's no big deal. Don't worry about it. Besides women who "date" cars aren't going to date a $10-15k car anyway . . . those women want you to have a Benz, a lexus or high end sports car. So you will be spending that money just to pay to garage it. Why bother? 1
Author Hawkings42 Posted November 17, 2013 Author Posted November 17, 2013 If I lived in Jersey City proper, and was commuting across the Hudson to Manhattan for work, or working in the city, no way would I own a car. I'd walk, bike or use mass transit for dates and rent a car or take the train/plane for long-distance trips. If you're going to date city women, they know the drill and most won't have cars themselves. Save the money on the car, the maintenance, the insurance and the parking and get a two level flat, rent the bottom one out, and grow your own path. I don't know if I can afford a two level flat lol. I'll be moving to a 1 bedroom by the Grove Street PATH station. Guess this means that I will be only be able to date city women(Hoboken, JC, NYC)? That will be new to me...
Author Hawkings42 Posted November 17, 2013 Author Posted November 17, 2013 Women not wanting to date a man who doesn't have a car applies to rural places where there is no easy way to get around. In NYC & the surrounding area where you are it's no big deal. Don't worry about it. Besides women who "date" cars aren't going to date a $10-15k car anyway . . . those women want you to have a Benz, a lexus or high end sports car. So you will be spending that money just to pay to garage it. Why bother? Rural women I've seen say they just don't wanna have to drive places or be limited by public transit. Thanks for the advice...I hope it holds true
carhill Posted November 17, 2013 Posted November 17, 2013 I don't know if I can afford a two level flat lol. I'll be moving to a 1 bedroom by the Grove Street PATH station. Guess this means that I will be only be able to date city women(Hoboken, JC, NYC)? That will be new to me... You're probably right. I'd have to research more on some two levels. Found a nice 1BR at Mandalay for 500K. That's dirt cheap being practically on the river and near the NJ transit station. I'd do a deal like that and walk in a heartbeat. Of course, I'm coming at this from the other end of a lifetime with women and making my own mistakes about priorities. Up to you man, it's your gig. If you're a JD, you've got a good head on you, so go get 'em. Me, I like dirt now. They're not making any more of it. Women, they're being born every day. Good luck
Author Hawkings42 Posted November 17, 2013 Author Posted November 17, 2013 You're probably right. I'd have to research more on some two levels. Found a nice 1BR at Mandalay for 500K. That's dirt cheap being practically on the river and near the NJ transit station. I'd do a deal like that and walk in a heartbeat. Of course, I'm coming at this from the other end of a lifetime with women and making my own mistakes about priorities. Up to you man, it's your gig. If you're a JD, you've got a good head on you, so go get 'em. Me, I like dirt now. They're not making any more of it. Women, they're being born every day. Good luck Dirt cheap?! Damn, I must be a poor because that sounds like a ton right now lol. Btw..any women that have differing opinions?
Agent Orange Posted November 17, 2013 Posted November 17, 2013 I think you should ask yourself the same question. Are you ok with dating someone who doesn't have a car?
Author Hawkings42 Posted November 18, 2013 Author Posted November 18, 2013 (edited) I think you should ask yourself the same question. Are you ok with dating someone who doesn't have a car? Uh...yup. I don't think it would be an issue. I don't see why that would be helpful tho. I think it just shrinks e dating pool to NYC, Jersey City and Hoboken. That isn't the worst thing IMO. However, I'm really not a fan of Hoboken and I may not meet the income requirement for NYC women yet. Suburban women are prob easier for me to attain right now. But, I shouldn't be aiming for low hanging fruit to begin with. Edited November 18, 2013 by Hawkings42
Woggle Posted November 18, 2013 Posted November 18, 2013 JC is a very urban area that some people have even called a sixth borough of NYC so you do not need a car. 1
Agent Orange Posted November 18, 2013 Posted November 18, 2013 Uh...yup. I don't think it would be an issue. I don't see why that would be helpful tho. I think it just shrinks e dating pool to NYC, Jersey City and Hoboken. That isn't the worst thing IMO. However, I'm really not a fan of Hoboken and I may not meet the income requirement for NYC women yet. Suburban women are prob easier for me to attain right now. But, I shouldn't be aiming for low hanging fruit to begin with. Low hanging fruit? What does that mean? I only asked if you would date someone w/o a car because a lot of guys seem to think it's ok to mooch off girls who do. Plus I would think if neither has a car, it would limit your options. NYC is ok, but there are places you might want to go that aren't available by public transportation.
Author Hawkings42 Posted November 18, 2013 Author Posted November 18, 2013 (edited) Low hanging fruit? What does that mean? I only asked if you would date someone w/o a car because a lot of guys seem to think it's ok to mooch off girls who do. Plus I would think if neither has a car, it would limit your options. NYC is ok, but there are places you might want to go that aren't available by public transportation. Low Hanging fruit in this instance would refer to women that are the easiest to obtain. I don’t necessarily think that this should be my objective. As far as going places outside public transportation…the more people I have asked about it have told me that no one has a car in JC/Hoboken. I think it is the norm. If I need one I could just use zip car($10 per hour and $90 per day). I'm literally in the city 55-65 hours per week . I would just feel silly buying a car just for a women. Especially when parking is horrible and a garage is expensive. I would probably never use it. Edited November 18, 2013 by Hawkings42
Agent Orange Posted November 18, 2013 Posted November 18, 2013 I can see where you're coming from with that. I've dated guys without cars before and it never worked out but I don't live in Jersey City or Hoboken. So you're looking for the difficult women? That's weird.
Author Hawkings42 Posted November 18, 2013 Author Posted November 18, 2013 Nope, just not women that are too easy or eager. I don't want that. I just started online dating and Im likely to close my profile this week. Black women (race I'm most attracted too) seem to be too eager to date a "professional"...seems like they treat you like a walking checklist. Trying to avoid those low hanging fruit.
Agent Orange Posted November 18, 2013 Posted November 18, 2013 Haha, never heard that before. Do people actually come out and say that kind of stuff? If you're giving up on online dating, a friend of mine tried speed dating and said it was ok.
antonio1149 Posted November 18, 2013 Posted November 18, 2013 As far as going places outside public transportation…the more people I have asked about it have told me that no one has a car in JC/Hoboken. I think it is the norm. If I need one I could just use zip car($10 per hour and $90 per day). I'm literally in the city 55-65 hours per week . I would just feel silly buying a car just for a women. Especially when parking is horrible and a garage is expensive. I would probably never use it. I went without a car for about 18 months--used my bike, buses, the train, and when I really needed a car, the Zip Car. Worked out great, never had a problem with dating. If you're a lawyer, I'm pretty sure that would more than compensate for your current lack of a vehicle in the eyes of your more materialistic prospects.
Agent Orange Posted November 20, 2013 Posted November 20, 2013 A lot of my friends use Zip car and they swear by it.
paigej91 Posted November 20, 2013 Posted November 20, 2013 I'm currently dating a 27 year old without a car. Neither of us have one and do quite fine without it. We bus and/or bike to our destinations. There's always friends or rentals. Of course, only urban women would likely be "okay" with this. If you're talking to someone who lives in the suburbs or a rural area, a car is kind of a necessity.
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