alexjames Posted November 17, 2013 Posted November 17, 2013 I started speaking to a girl online on Friday evening. We didn't actually talk that much, just the usual ''where do you work, what college did you go too'' etc etc. I asked what she was upto this weekend and she said not much and so I just asked if she wanted to go for a drink Tonight rather than talking online, and she agreed too it. The thing is, since then, we have texted a little (only when I text first as she has never text me first). And when we do text, it's really short, 2/3 word texts etc. She doesn't seem interested in me in the slightest and I have asked what kind of guys she likes and I'm nothing like her ''type''. I asked her earlier if she still wanted to meet Tonight and she replied with ''sure, don't know what time though as not sure when I'll be home from my mates''. So it looks like we are meeting, but I really can't see it going well! What do I talk about? What if it is obvious from the beginning we aren't going to get on that well? I'm pretty nervous if I'm honest!
d0nnivain Posted November 17, 2013 Posted November 17, 2013 She may simply not like texting. I don't like it & therefore send very short messages. Lose your negative attitude. Many times relationships work out better when some one dates off type. Nail her down to a specific time & go. Even if things don't go great with her, maybe you will meet somebody else at the coffee shop (just don't hit on them in front of her)
Tephros Posted November 17, 2013 Posted November 17, 2013 I started speaking to a girl online on Friday evening. We didn't actually talk that much, just the usual ''where do you work, what college did you go too'' etc etc. I asked what she was upto this weekend and she said not much and so I just asked if she wanted to go for a drink Tonight rather than talking online, and she agreed too it. The thing is, since then, we have texted a little (only when I text first as she has never text me first). And when we do text, it's really short, 2/3 word texts etc. She doesn't seem interested in me in the slightest and I have asked what kind of guys she likes and I'm nothing like her ''type''. I asked her earlier if she still wanted to meet Tonight and she replied with ''sure, don't know what time though as not sure when I'll be home from my mates''. So it looks like we are meeting, but I really can't see it going well! What do I talk about? What if it is obvious from the beginning we aren't going to get on that well? I'm pretty nervous if I'm honest! Umm, the fact that she agreed to have a drink with you sounds like she might be interested, so don't blow it by being all unconfident. Sometimes girls don't really know their type, they just know chemistry when they feel it. I mean, you ask most girls what they want and they say they want a blah blah blah and a gentleman... riiiiight. Just ask her questions and be a good listener, banter with her, and HAVE FUN. If it doesn't work out, you'll have wasted what, the money to buy her a drink and the time you didn't have something better to do? Time drinking with women is time well spent - good practice even if nothing comes of it.
Lansing Posted November 17, 2013 Posted November 17, 2013 Wow, you are way too negative .. First, stop all the texting. What you do is plan a date. Set the place/time and then you just go to that place at that time and MEET her. And then you talk in person. No need to keep checking in, no need to "verify' the date, no need to give her excuses about why she shouldn't show up. If she is interested, she will agree to a time/place instead of saying " I have to see when I am done at my friend's house". Don't rely on texting to determine if she is interested or not. Second thing, never ask a girl "what is your type", nothing good can come out of that.
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